Is the secret to a happy marriage having an open marriage? Carl and Kenya have been married for 17 years and share three beautiful children. They also have multiple lovers and believe monogamy leads to failure. Tune in and decide for yourself: Is open marriage the answer to ending infidelity and divorce, or does it lead to the ending of a marriage?
How Will Their Lifestyle Affect the Kids?
“What about it bothers you?” Dr. Phil asks Joann.
“Well, I have to say first that I disapprove. I just don’t agree with having partners outside of the marriage,” she says. “And more than that, I’m concerned about my grandchildren. I want to say that my grandchildren are aware of this open marriage, and I don’t agree that they should be involved in it or that they should know about it. It’s to be at least discreet. That’s my opinion. I don’t think it should happen at all.”
“I do. I think any child that goes through any type of divorce also has some issues, and I can speak to it, and my son has spoken about it,” Joann says. She asks Dr. Phil what he knows about the experiences of children who are exposed to open marriage.
Dr. Phil explains his two rules when it comes to children: One, never involve children in things over which they have no control. And two, never ask children to deal with adult issues. He tells Kenya, “Their brains are not through growing yet. When you’re talking to an 11-year-old about these issues, you know what message you send, but it’s hard to know what message is received."