Who's to Blame?

A father defends his controversial YouTube video that sparked an outrage. Watch and vote: Is it racism? And, a mother and her 14-year-old daughter turn to Dr. Phil for help with their volatile relationship. What is at the root of their constant conflict?

Is it Racism?



Ryan's wife, April, asked him to take the video down, but he refused.

"When Ryan posted the video, it created a big uproar. If I could turn back time, I wouldn't have recorded the video," April says. "I've been reading the comments on YouTube, and they're just very negative comments about my daughter " horrible. Some of the people were saying we're racist. Some of the people were saying, ‘Just wait until your daughter brings home a big, black dude.' Just horrible things that they shouldn't be saying about a child. It upset me a little bit. Some people were saying that he was a racist and part of the KKK. I want people to know the truth about my family and that we are not racist. I'm concerned when I drop her off at school, somebody will see her and go, ‘Oh, that's the little racist girl from the video,' because it's gotten so big, and it just makes me really nervous."

Dr. Phil asks Ryan if he finds it inappropriate that people are bringing up race as an issue.

Ryan says, "I can understand the race card any time a race issue is brought up. I think you're always going to have a mix of some people who are very, very sensitive about race, and then you're also going to have people who aren't so sensitive, who understand that race is just part of this world."

"But you brought it up," Dr. Phil says.

He plays the last few seconds of the video, in which Ryan, laughing, says, "My little racist 3-year-old."

"Do you think that's appropriate to say?" Dr. Phil asks.

"It's clearly not a racist video. It's me joking with my daughter," he says.

"But you say at the end, ‘My little racist 3-year-old.' And you say it with pride."

"It wasn't pride. I was actually laughing when I said it." Ryan says he and his wife were surprised at their daughter's reaction.

Tre, an African-American viewer and the father of a 2-year-old, says the video makes him angry.

"You're a jackass."
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