Who's to Blame?

A father defends his controversial YouTube video that sparked an outrage. Watch and vote: Is it racism? And, a mother and her 14-year-old daughter turn to Dr. Phil for help with their volatile relationship. What is at the root of their constant conflict?

Is it Racism?



Watch Ryan's controversial home video.

Dr. Phil plays Ryan's video for his studio audience and takes a poll: If they think the video is harmless fun, they should stand up. No one stands. He asks them to stand if they think it's inappropriate and demonstrates racism. Nearly all of the audience gets on their feet.

"I've pulled pranks on my daughter many times, like any father would," Ryan says. "My daughter, she was getting ready to go to bed, and she brought a couple dolls up to me, and she asked me why some of them were white and some of them weren't white. I decided to pull a little prank on her, and that's when I told her that all little girls on their fourth birthday turn black. My wife started recording the video. My daughter's initial reaction was obviously like any kid; she was scared of change. I posted the video on YouTube about five months ago, just as a way to share it with most of my family. I had no idea that any of this was going to go viral. The reaction I got online was mixed. I'd say 90 to 95 percent of it was good. Then the other five percent, it was a little bit scary. People were saying a lot of horrible things about me and my daughter. We got death threats, people saying they wanted to kidnap her. It was definitely shocking. I've gotten a thousand comments where people were saying we were subpar parents for playing a joke and inflicting mental abuse on my kid. I don't see how people can find it offensive. Even my black friends who know me thought the video was hilarious."

Dr. Phil disagrees with Ryan about his estimate that 90 percent of the comments were positive, because he sees it differently in the comments, message boards and with his audience poll.

Ryan says, "I've been following the comments pretty close myself, and most people who watch the video take time to actually look at my YouTube channel. Most of those people are saying, ‘Yeah, you know what? It's a harmless prank.'" Ryan says he has no regrets about posting the video.

"And you don't regret what you did with your daughter?" Dr. Phil asks.

"No," he says.

"And you don't regret her reaction?"

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