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August 11, 2005, 12:17 pm CDT

How do other working mums cope?

Hey there.  I have never been on any of Dr Phils message boards although I have been on Oprahs from time to time.  Just had my third baby.... he is now 10 weeks old.  I have been married for 9 years and have another two sons, one who is 8 and one who is 4.  I just want to connect with other mums out there who also juggle working outside the home aswell.  I go back to work after Xmas and am dreading the thought as it was hard enough when I had two children.  If anyone out there has any good advice I would really appreciate it.  It will make the next few months easier to relax with my new baby instead of worrying!!!  I am mailing all the way from Scotland.... but if there is one thing every mum out there has in common, it is that it is the hardest job in the world.  Right? 
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August 23, 2005, 1:34 am CDT

Thanks Cenobia!

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Grats on the new baby.  I miss having a baby around.  Mine are getting older, seems to go by so fast.  I too am trying to get back to work.  I worked a part time job last year, which worked out well because I didn't need a babysitter.  I just hate trusting anyone with my kids.  Anyway, a few suggestions that I found helpful are to make sure everything you can do ahead of time is done the day before.  For example, lay out all the days clothing, make sure backpacks are put together for school and all paperwork signed etc.  If you make lunches for them, have those done as well.  Also if you get your clothing ready and everything you need too, briefcase or whatnot.  It may be annoying to do sometimes, but it does save sooo much time and it makes the mornings run smoother.  Also if your child's school serves breakfast, by all means take advantage of that.  It will save time too.  My kids eat breakfast at their schools, and when I come home at the end of it all there won't be any dirty dishes from the morning.   

Also planning for meal times is a good time saver.  I usually write out what we are going to have for an entire week and then when I shop it's all written down.  Then when I go to make it I have everything I need.  This also helps me to cut down on junk food spending.   

This also may be borring, but it is good to have a schedule for homelife.  Dinner at the same time, do dishes right after, homework same time every night.  Kids do like the sence of security it brings, and if it's all planned out there is less time wasted and more quiet time at night, which translates into time for yourself, which all mothers need desperately. 

If I think of anything else I'll write again.  Good luck. 



Hi there, friend.  

Many, many thanks for the message you left me on the board.  I think your advice sounds just right and you sound like you know what you are talking about.  I do some of these things but just hearing it from someone else makes me want to try a bit harder to get it all down to a fine art!  Your idea of planning out meals etc and then only buying what you need - and then having it when you need it is not something I do already, but next shopping day, I`m going to give it a go.  I will let you know how it goes....  Maybe some of my problem is that when I get everything for myself and my three kids ready the night before (which takes preparation and time), I suppose I get a bit annoyed that I am doing it to help myself in the morning get them ready and me ready for work...  but WHY am I doing it all when I have a husband who has a pair of hands also.  He leaves earlier in the morning than us...  so I suppose he thinks he doesn`t have to think about all that needs done for everyone else.  Well, I think that might be another problem, eh!  However, I sure do appreciate your help and advice and please, if you think of any other wee ideas... don`t hesitate to write them here.  All ideas greatly appreciated.  Thanks again...  


* Judy  

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September 1, 2005, 2:31 pm CDT

Organised with your organisers!

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Here is one of those organizers so you can see what i was talking about... 



Hey there....    


Well, what can I say... I looked at the organisers on the site you told me about, and I have these in my sons wardrobes.  So I emptied them and sorted them into days of the week and there, I am sorted from Monday to Friday with their clothes.  Only thing I could think of that would be a hinderance would be that here.... in bonny Scotland, the weather is so changeable the kids could be wearing shorts and t-shirts one day and heavy clothes for rain and hail the next.  But, apart from that..... I just love using these organisers like this.  Such a simple idea - but sometimes its the simple things that you think of last.  At least I do.  With the three kids, hubby and house and just `life in general` you can miss the simple things when life moves at such a speed.....  Hope you are doing ok `Cenobia`.  Write again when and if you can.....  Thanks again!  Judy   

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September 3, 2005, 12:42 pm CDT

Free time!!! What`s that again??? HA,HA!

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Hi, I'am new on this messageboard but it is nice too see how  you manage a family as a working mom.  

Since 3 months I am working again, I started with a few hours a week but since last week I got a contract for 20 hours a week.  

I made a dayplanner for dinner, shopping etc, my husband and kids help out, and it works.  

My girls are 15 and 17 so that isn't a problem.  

I think dinner is important for a family so when  I have to work a last shift I prepare dinner and they only have to cook it.  


My only problem is to get a little bit time for if anybody can help???...Thank you from Holland :-)  

Hey there, Holland Mum, from Scotland Mum.....  


You sound like you have things worked out pretty well... and the fact that your husband and kids help out is fantastic...  not everyone is as blessed with that help.  However, congratulations on getting back into the workplace and I hope the added hours are what you wanted.    


As for finding time for yourself...  perhaps if you sat and listed the sort of things you would like to do in your free time.... then you can start to work out how to obtain that precious time.  I find it hard at the moment to find the time - but I have made a start as I know what I would do with it if I had it!!!!  I want to do a bit of drawing, write letters to friends, go for walks (alone) and visit friends I have not visited for a good while.  I list the things I want to do and strive to tick them off my list as I do them, even if it takes me a hundred or so years to do them all.  Everytime I get one thing done, it keeps me going..... the list will never end as I keep adding things as they come up.  I suppose good time management is the key, and help from the family...... they have to understand it is important for you to have your `alone` time to get your head around life, etc!  Of course, I don`t have the magic answer that will get you loads of time alone, but maybe someone out there has a better suggestion.  I hope you find what works for you...... let us know on this message board.  I think every mum in the world would love the answer to this one!!!!  Good luck friend!!!!  


Judy :-)  

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September 10, 2005, 1:28 pm CDT

Where does the time go???

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For the longest time I cmplained that I never had any me time.  And the thing is you are responsible for taking that me time your self.  And the other thing that I had to remember is me time is allowed to have back ground noise!  I used to think that in order to get me time the kids had to be gone.....I am learning that is not the case....look at me know my son is watching TV and I am on the computer and I am having me time. 


I also do things like talking on the phone. Tweezing my eyebrows, what ever it might be.  I am realizing I have a lot of me time.  I was just taking it for granted and not realizing I really did have it!   

Hi.  I read your message and it dawned on me that you were making a valid point.  You know, about having the time and not realising it.  I don`t mean I am blind to the fact that half the day is mine to do with as I want, but that there are moments where we do have time and maybe we just have to be aware of them.  I am very lucky that most nights, my three boys sleep all night (even the baby) so I am not a mum who needs to sleep during the day.  I remember those days well, as my first son was up all night and I had to sleep during the day when I could.  But, when my baby is awake during the day, I get on with the housework as best I can, even if he is in his bouncy chair beside me and then when he takes a nap - I will make a coffee, read a magazine or book draw, or whatever I like.  I know this is a luxury for some mums and it doesn`t always work out like this is the baby is crying all day and just doesn`t settle.....  no housework gets done and no time to myself, but we must try to stay positive and remember.... one day we will have lots of time to ourselves and even have moments when we are sad the kids are gone.  God bless all mums and dads who try their hardest whatever life throws at them.  It is the hardest job in the world, and we aren`t perfect, but I think the majority of us do a bloomin good job.  God bless us all tonight and forever.

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