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Topic : 02/09 Family Secrets, Family Lies

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Created on : Friday, February 03, 2006, 04:20:48 pm
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On the outside, they seem like an all-American family, but behind closed doors is a household spinning out of control. Dr. Phil follows up with Bridgette, a self-proclaimed shopaholic, and her husband, Michael, who is a rageaholic.  Bridgette's excessive spending was covering up a much darker problem. She reveals a secret she has been hiding for 30 years: self-mutilation. Dr. Phil reveals that her son, David, cuts himself as well. And that's not all! Tempers flare as the children reveal that they are addicted to porn, and say it’s a habit that started when they were children. Will this family in crisis be able to pick up the pieces and move forward? Talk about the show here.


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March 19, 2006, 8:48 am CST


Cutters are individuals who mutilate themselves regularly and deliberately.  Some of my favoirite books that provide some introductory insight into the rage and self-punishment of a cutter are:   


A Bright Red Scream:  Self-Mutilation and the Language of Pain by Marilee Strong  


Get Me Out of Here:  My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder by Racheal Rieland  


The books invoke empathy for the psychological and emotional struggles that underlie self-mutilation.  The late Princess Diana suffered from the eating disorders that characterize between 35-80 percent of all cutters.   


Hope it helps!  

March 20, 2006, 12:42 pm CST

Ignorance ...

Quote From: casey35

Come on, Dr. Phil!  Why are you trying to reason with a woman who clearly is getting off on the attention she is receiving for all of this chaos, for being on the show. She makes absolutely no effort to correct her behavior, because her life approach of manipulating and using others WORKS TOO WELL!  She projects her rage onto everyone around her, but she owns nothing. Her children have shown her to be a complete liar, and she says they're lying?????????  If so, they didn't fall too far from the tree!  John Stossel could do a great "Give me a break!" episode on all of the attention placed on this woman!  Her husband and children need to "step away from the car," and get the heck out of her life.  Let her see how she does with no job, no money to spend, and no one to project her anger onto - hellllllllllllllllllllllooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!

You only learn from which it was you were taught.  If abused children live in an environment of abuse, torture, and criticism that is what they grow up to be.  If children grow up in a well nurtured, structured home you can hope your influences and time in there lives will steer them to grow in the "right direction".  Not all of us grow up in a beaver cleaver home, not all of us know exactly what it is we are doing wrong because nobody took the time to teach the "right" way.  I could reply to many messages on this board in the same way.   

I guess it goes like this,  

If you haven't been there,  

If you don't have a clue,  

Don't bother responding, 

It really won't do.   


Go educate yourself on Self mutilation "cutters", Depression, Obsessive disorders,  and the things this family is going thru before you place judgment on others.   


Here is a phrase you should look into ... They say abused children are like moths who keep flying into the flame.  Why do you think that is?  I am eager to hear your response. 


Not  knowing and running of the lips,  

Only has a cause to sink many ships. 


I rather be hated for someone I am, Then loved for someone I'm not - Author Unknown 

April 19, 2006, 9:29 am CDT

Watching from the UK

Just saw the first show in this series on Skyplus in the UK and read the subsequent revelations on this website.  One thing that struck me was the comment from Bridgette - 'I didn't love him when I married him - my mother said he was a rich doctor - a good catch'  


I think that encapsulated the whole thing for me.  OK she had issues from her childhood - but so many other people have had the same or worse and have not decided to create their own personal hell and people them with their own children.  


Another thing that struck me was that the husband had been unfaithful during the first year of their marriage.  Possibly he had been able to tell she didn't love him if only on a subconscious level?  


What are these two people trying to sort out their relationship for exactly?  They say they love each other - but I seriously doubt either of them have the slightest inkling of what love is.  They have shown no sign of loving behaviour to each other or their children.  Ok she has been abused, but I would suggest the worst abuser of that woman is herself.  Her husband has just joined in.    


They don't love each other but I would say there is an addictive problem here - they are addicted to the habit of hurting each other - it is their excitement and their rush.  Just like a drug it is killing them - but they enjoy the kick it gives them so much they can't break free of each other.  Some people are just bad for each other.  She needs someone understanding and he needs the same - with both people so needy they can't help the other, they just feed each others insecurities and flaws.  


I feel so sorry for the kids - I just hope they can have the sense to look at their parents and say 'thankyou for the life lesson - at least I know now - what not to do.'  


I have said to my husband in some of our 'discussions' it is better for a person to be treated with respect even if you don't mean it - than to be treated honestly disrespectfully - and if you value the other person at all you make an effort to treat them properly even if that isn't the way you feel at that moment - its called caring enough to help them feel better - these two haven't got that ability and as long as they are together I see no hope of them learning that important skill.  


When two people are more concerned about helping the other person feel better than indulging in petty spitefulness - you have a good relationship.  


Just my take on it  



July 27, 2006, 8:03 pm CDT

Bright Blue Eyes


I have just watched this episode here in Australia, as im sure most americans would agree that we are slow and that this is proof, as epsiodes are delayed for viewing by about 6 months.  


My my my, how confused this family must be.  My heart extends to them all and i wish them well in trying to put the pieces of there puzzle back together.  


I couldnt help but get lost in their sons, David's eyes.  They are the most beautiful blue eyes I have ever seen and there is a light inside of them that shines right through my tv screen to my heart.  If u read this David, always be true to yourself as their is nothing nicer than looking yourself in the mirror and being able to smile at yourself.  There is something about u David that i cant put my finger on, but stay strong and proud and remember even though things r pretty messy with your folks right now, its because of them u are here so if nothing else, honour that!!  


If your ever in Australia, let me know, we will have a good ole aussie bbq and a cold beer!  

July 14, 2007, 8:54 am CDT

family secrets, family lies

I sure would love to know what happened to this family.  Someone please let me know. 


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