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Topic : 08/14 Teens: Pressure to Be Pretty

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Created on : Friday, April 24, 2009, 02:53:42 pm
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(Original Air Date: 05/01/09) Cosmetic surgery among teens 18 and younger has more than tripled over a 10-year period. Dr. Phil talks to young women who say they face pressure from the media, their peers and even their own parents to be beautiful. Eighteen-year-old Jennifer says her mom, Martha, wants her to get liposuction, breast implants, a nose job and laser hair removal because she says beauty sells. Jennifer says she’s satisfied with her looks, and she wants her mom to back off. Dr. Phil gives Martha a wake-up call, and it’s not pretty! Then, 18-year-old Ashley says she wants a second breast implant surgery to increase to a Double-D cup size because “pretty people get more opportunities in life.” Ashley’s father and stepmother say the first surgery was necessary to boost Ashley’s self-esteem, but they’re against her getting any more procedures. Will Ashley change her mind about going under the knife again? Plus, meet a 17-year-old who says it’s not only time for breast implants, but also for Botox for her crow’s feet, and lip and cheek injections! Weigh in!

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May 2, 2009, 5:45 pm CDT

Noway Jose!

I'm 14 years old and cosmetic surgery is something I would not do! In my opinion getting cosmetic surgery done is like telling yourself your not pretty and to me if you don't think your pretty nobody will either!!! So keep your chin up and be happy for who you are! Because There's only one you and I think that's something to be proud of.
 
May 2, 2009, 7:01 pm CDT

What do you expect?

All the sex on tv and in the media. Kids want to look like porn stars. It's not like your going to make better money or get a better job because you have big boobs. You might get unwanted attention from people who look for girls with low self esteem to prey on. Breast implants on little girls under 25 is kind of sick and perverted.
 
May 2, 2009, 7:43 pm CDT

05/01 Teens: Pressure to Be Pretty

Quote From: jordanreimer

I'm 16 years old, and live in San Diego, CA. It is a very had place not to feel pressure to be perfect, but slowly I am coming to love myself the way I am. That is what life is all about. While watching this show, I saw the young girl who wanted DD breast implants. Dr. Phil and her father were obviously trying to talk her out of it, and some of the things they were saying/assumptions they were making about teenagers with DD breasts were unfair and hurtful. I am an ALL NATURAL 34DD, and the things they said actually hurt my feelings. He father said if she were to get the implants, she would attract the, "Wrong kinds of people..." and Dr. Phil said they would become her defining feature. Although they do help people describe me in detail, people DO know me for other things. I just wanted to say that maybe they were not being fair and were trying to hard to talk her out of what she wanted and didn't think of other peoples feelings.

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Dr phil and ashley`s father meant no offense to naturally large breasted women. They were only talking about ashley who was acting as if her breasts were her defining feature the way she showed them off with those low ndcklines.
 
May 2, 2009, 7:48 pm CDT

05/01 Teens: Pressure to Be Pretty

Quote From: ashley112494

I'm 14 years old and cosmetic surgery is something I would not do! In my opinion getting cosmetic surgery done is like telling yourself your not pretty and to me if you don't think your pretty nobody will either!!! So keep your chin up and be happy for who you are! Because There's only one you and I think that's something to be proud of.
If only we could bottle your self confidence and give it to every teenager!
 
May 2, 2009, 7:56 pm CDT

05/01 Teens: Pressure to Be Pretty

Quote From: rachellove

I really would like to relay my thoughts to the teen who wants DD breasts.  I don't wish the DD on anybody.  I naturally have them and it is nothing but trouble-  I have trouble finding the right bra, and my back hurts a lot.  One of the worst is hunting for a swimsuit- I have yet to find one that has the right support so that I don't have to take the time to alter the bra and put in underwires so that I don't slip out of the cups of the suit.  Not to mention that they always seem extremely sensitive to the slightest thing.  Finding clothes isn't always fun either.  And the fake ones would be most perky, the real ones are not and the stretch marks and the side of the breast fat isn't easy to fit.  I admit some of it has to do with my weight- but please let her see this and now that good looking boobs aren't the most awesome things to have-  I really wish I could get mine reduced to a C.
You might want to check out breakout bras website. They have bras and swimwear for a cup to o cup breasts. They might also have a retail location near you.
 
May 2, 2009, 8:22 pm CDT

offended.

Dear Dr. Phil,

I am a sixteen year old girl, with god given 36 DDD breasts. I was throughly offended with your statement about girls with 44 DD's either sitting waiting to get reductions, or being strippers. You made me feel like because I have big boobs I either have to get a reduction, or become a stripper. Big breasts do not automatically make you a "slut". I did agree with you that the last girl on your show did not need to get another breast surgery, but I did not agree with your reasoning behind not wanting her to. You made it seem like all girls with big breasts are "sluts", and we are not.

 
May 2, 2009, 8:34 pm CDT

Both young ladies were naturally gorgeous...

The best job a parent could do is to teach children and teens to love themselves for whom they are.  The biggest mistake of the father that agreed on the C cups, was to agree on augmentations to his young daughter.  What was he thinking about?  Once they start, they can't stop.

 

As for the Columbian mom, I am Latin too but strongly disagree on you pushing your fake values on you beautiful and naturally beautiful daughter.  The idea that fakeness will open doors, wow what a huge misconception!  This is NOT the way that loving parents really act, not even in our Latin America!

 
May 2, 2009, 8:38 pm CDT

Good for you Ashley...

Quote From: ashley112494

I'm 14 years old and cosmetic surgery is something I would not do! In my opinion getting cosmetic surgery done is like telling yourself your not pretty and to me if you don't think your pretty nobody will either!!! So keep your chin up and be happy for who you are! Because There's only one you and I think that's something to be proud of.

My daughter is pretty flat chested too, but not even now at 21 had she ever discussed augmentation.  Heather is the one in the picture with me, as you could see she is gogeous without the fakeness. 

 

I could see your parents are doing great by you.  Keep on loving yourself, it is the only way you can then learn to love others.  A Big Daddy hug to you.  Yes, you got it right!

 
May 2, 2009, 8:48 pm CDT

05/01 Teens: Pressure to Be Pretty

Beauty might get you in the door, but beauty will not keep your job.  Brains will keep in the door.  If you are pretty but dumb as hell and so focused on yourself no one will care about what you look like.  I work with someone like that the only that seems to be more focused on how she looks, and what she is wearing and it's all about her.  But no one likes her.  I'm not pretty but I have more people at work that like me than she will ever have.  Women did not fight for hundreds of years for equal rights to be told that we don't matter unless you are pretty. 
 
May 2, 2009, 8:51 pm CDT

Big breasts

Just to let those that want bigger breasts I'll tell you that they are not all they are cracked up to be.  They give you back pains all the time, they get in the way.  Ask most women with bigger natural breasts and most will say they want them smaller because they can be more of a pain than benefitial.
 
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