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Topic : 03/30 The Dark Side of the Internet

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Created on : Thursday, March 26, 2009, 10:22:32 am
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Parents, you may not know it, but there is a threat looming in your home. It’s a frightening and dangerous trend that affects the good girls -- cheerleaders, honor students and college graduates -- and law enforcement agencies across the country are up in arms. No longer needing to walk the streets to offer sex for money, young women are turning to the reputable Web site in order to sell their bodies. Next to the area on the site where you can buy a jungle gym for your child, you can access erotic ads, where young women post sexy photos and advertise sex for money. When Ashley was in college pursuing a bachelor’s degree, she never predicted that she would one day meet strangers for sex in order to pay off her student loans. She says she wants to quit the dangerous profession before something horrible happens, but thinks she’s addicted to the “easy money.” Crystal says she was also addicted to the money until she was nearly killed. Hear her horrific story and how her life is now that she has escaped the industry. Could Crystal’s tale be the wake-up call Ashley needs? Then, meet a mother who fears her daughter may be using craigslist to exchange sex for money. What can she do to protect her daughter? Sheriff of Cook County, Illinois Tom Dart and Connecticut Attorney General Richard Blumenthal weigh in. Lawmakers have formed a coalition to rid craigslist of its erotic service section, but find out why they’ve been fighting an uphill battle. Join the discussion.

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March 30, 2009, 12:33 pm CDT

03/30 The Dark Side of the Internet

My daughter accumulated a large debt attending college.  She would never resort to this. This young lady is using debt as an excuse.  Lenders will defer payments and work with the people they loan tuition money to, so she's full of it, she enjoys this lifestyle and money.  She said she only paid the minimum, what does that tell you? To me, if she was doing  this to get them paid off, she would pay more then the minimum.   Flip burgers, clean homes, show more respect for yourself.  Think of your future husband, how would he feel knowing you did this, think of your parents.  It's not too late to get yourself out of this mess.   
March 30, 2009, 12:46 pm CDT

03/30 The Dark Side of the Internet

I can't agree w/ anyone who says they have to prostitute to pay the bills! I am a single mother of 5 children, I don't recieve child support, and was laid off from my job of six years 2 weeks before christmas. Which greatly reduced my income over the last few months. If you can't afford it, you don't need it! In theory stop tryin' to live outside your means! I'm more than certain there are other ways & programs that could help.

March 30, 2009, 12:52 pm CDT

Let he who is without sin

I feel bad for Dr. Phil, he just doesn't get it.  He thinks being a prostitute is so easy and is something a lazy person does because they don't want to work.


I worked all my life at a great job.  Then I became disabled and I had to file Social Security (which they initially denied).  I had no money, doctor bills I wasn't paying and I didn't have a car or a mom with a basement I could live in.   I applied for welfare and wasn't given enough to pay my rent.  I wasn't getting any Social Security and was being threatened with eviction from my landlady in the middle of winter in Pittsburgh.  I could have lived on the streets and get beaten, raped and probably die


or I could become a prostitute until the Social Security came through.  That's what I did.  It wasn't easy and it wasn't what I wanted to do, but I was unable to sling burgers and lying on my back for a couple of hundred was something I could do... and did do.  Fortunately, my Social Security came through and I was able to stop.


Dr. Phil, get real, in this economy, there are times that you have to do to live.  And I did what I had to do.

Dr. Phil, you should check yourself before you go around judging people.  I hate your condecending attitute toward these women.

March 30, 2009, 12:58 pm CDT


I am watching your show today and I hvae used craigs list and I never noticed the erotic title.

I purposely went on it today and I just can't believe the things I saw. How can they get away with allowing people to put ads like this on the internet? You would not be able to put that in the newspaper why on earth can you put it online?

The thing that really surprised and to be honest grossed me out was that there is PREGNANT women selling sex!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Do they not care about their unborn babies? I dont even wanna hear them say they are doing it for their babies either. You can find other ways of making money to raise your children!!!

thank you for your show . you are awesome.

March 30, 2009, 1:03 pm CDT


o.k. I am so angry, frusrtrated and all kinds of other feelings i can not explain. I saw this woman on your stage today who was selling herself to pay the bills. Well i have been in the industry for over 20yrs and this chick just doesn't get it. She is selling herself and she is just barely making ends meet. What about those of us who have been beat'n, held at gun point, raped, tortured, brain washed, kidnaped and do i really need to go on. This is the life i lived for all those years. Now i am cold, broken, unable to love and most of the time unable to even cry. I can not trust especially men, I had a pimp all along and i was so sure he would be the death of me. This woman up ther today has not even had a taste of this life. She knows nothing.Th ere is no way in hell that she could survive out there on the streets let alone in a service. She needs to tkae a good listen to the young woman sitting next to her on the stage. In  Toronto Canada there was a huge prostitution bust that broke up a very well designed prostitution ring that ran from halifax to toronto and out west and beyond. Well i was in that same circle and have a son for the man i was paying. You need to read a book called "somebodys Daughter" by phonze jesso. If you read this you will have a good idea of what really goes on. Please take the time to read this.
March 30, 2009, 1:27 pm CDT

Jobs is the Reason

Dr Phil, I enjoyed your show today as always but I wonder when people are going to realized that the jobs leaving the US is the reason behind a lot of the problems your viewers have today. Many students are coming out of college with degrees and cannot find the type jobs that are needed to pay their student loans. I myself am 53 and just got laid off from a job where I had worked for 12 years just because the company wanted to give the work I was doing to some people over in India. This is a major problem. I has been going on for 20-25 years now and if it continues, the well is going to go dry and there will be no jobs here in America that can support the standard of living we are used to and provide the tax base the government needs to keep the economy going.  Thanks, Dave in Stilwell, Kansas.
March 30, 2009, 1:44 pm CDT


Just to let you know, craigslist is not only hosting the "erotic" portion, have you looked at their dating site area?  Men seeking me, (that is the WORST).  There are pornographic photos all over it.  I have a friend who is a lesbian seeking a relationship, so one day I saw "women seeking women", and I checked it out to see if there was someone on there maybe she could meet.  Out of curiosity I checked out the men seeking men, and I was HORRIFIED.  I flagged several profiles, but found that they were still there the next day and so on.  It is only a few clicks away from children.  I think that the fact that it is so accessible is a real problem.  All that it takes is for one child to find these websites, they tell their friends and it will spread like wild fire.  My children are growing up quickly.  It is really important to know what is accessible.   
March 30, 2009, 1:50 pm CDT

Not so Stupid woman

Quote From: singlemommy5

I can't agree w/ anyone who says they have to prostitute to pay the bills! I am a single mother of 5 children, I don't recieve child support, and was laid off from my job of six years 2 weeks before christmas. Which greatly reduced my income over the last few months. If you can't afford it, you don't need it! In theory stop tryin' to live outside your means! I'm more than certain there are other ways & programs that could help.

This woman is acting like she has some kind of sickness and needs help, or someone to stop her from continuing this life. I'm a physically challenged mother of three. I had student loans forever, as do my kids but they got jobs, and for years I worked every weekend, never was becoming a prostitue an option. I worked in hospitals, in home care. I have a professional degree and position. These girls just want big money working on thier backs. I would not be surprised if she wasn't using the Dr. Phil Show to get more face time then the internet. She can now use excerpts from the show on myspace, facebeook and youtube.

These girls are working the oldest profession in the world and they are not all in need of a rehab center,  they want fast money. Dr. Phil can start in colorado and follow Colfax street all the way to California and every prostitute will have a different story.

March 30, 2009, 1:53 pm CDT

Quit Stepping on Free Speech

I am appalled by the blatant disregard for the 1st amendment that your show just put on the air. The very right that you use everyday to express your opinion, you step on when you demonize craigslist for the behavior of other people. Craigslist is a message board, as such can be used by anyone at anytime for any matter of expressing their freedom of speech. Just because some idiots use a message board for illegal activity doesn't make the website a bad place. That's like saying it was the gun, not the person who killed the victim. The founder of craigslist has made it abundantly clear, that the company is only one person, himself. The active policing of the website, as mandated by it's user terms and agreements, is done by the users of the site themselves. Basically, craigslist is the world. The world is a dark and scary place for some people, and reasonable steps should be taken by parents, law enforcement, government, whomever to protect their people from it. But if it wasn't craigslist,  it would just be a different site, with all the same people. The fact that Tom Dart is suing craigslist for the extra manpower that he's had to use to curb the extra crime is ludicrous. His department gets more money for the more crime he takes off the street.
March 30, 2009, 2:07 pm CDT

Prostitution's long-term effects on employment

Dr. Phil, it concerned me greatly to hear a college graduate is not smart enough to realize that her long-term employment prospects are jeopardized  by a very accessible smudge on her personal life.  she states that she has an application response from the no 1 architectural firm in the country.  Doesn't this girl (and her thinking shows she is obviously still a girl) realize that employers do background checks and that the internet is FOREVER?  She is deluding herself that her "temporary vocation"  will not come to light and impinge on her employability for years to come.  As a former legal recruiter, I have only good wishes for the young lady but hope that her reality check comes sooner rather than later.  If I could talk with her, I'd just say "Get real!."
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