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Topic : 01/21 The Wild, Wild Web

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Created on : Friday, January 16, 2009, 02:54:04 pm
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Social networking Web sites like Facebook and MySpace are great for meeting people, but they’re also the source of much controversy. Do the dangers of these sites outweigh their benefits? Dr. Phil takes a look at the latest issues to crop up on the digital frontier. He begins with 17-year-old Ashley, who says her mother, Janet, obsessively controls her Facebook account and also harasses her friends online. Janet says she’s witnessed disturbing things on these Web sites, and she’s not about to let Ashley get into trouble. In trying to keep her daughter safe, has the concerned mom gone too far, or not far enough? Dr. Phil’s opinion might surprise you. Then, Facebook doesn’t allow pictures of bare bosoms to grace its pages – but what if the breast that’s bared belongs to a nursing mom? See the picture that caused a firestorm of controversy, and judge for yourself whether it’s obscene. Plus, meet a woman who spent 11 months in an intimate Facebook relationship with someone she thought was actor Matthew Perry from the show Friends. When she found out the true identity of her digital paramour, you won’t believe what happened next. Before you grant your next online friend request, you’ll want to check out this show!

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January 21, 2009, 12:54 pm CST

Breast Feeding In Public

I am appalled at this woman who posted a picture of herself breast feeding her child..Yes, there is nothing wrong with being Natural with your child, do it in private though...I think it is rediculous that she thinks bottle feeding is the same as breast feeding..AND also, FACEBOOK HAS POlicies!!! If you dont want to follow them, then get off the site!!! I know I DONT Want to see that...It should be a very special and private moment with your child!!

January 21, 2009, 1:19 pm CST

01/21 The Wild, Wild Web

Hi Dr. Phil!


I am a mother of 5 and have numerous foster children.  I would like to say that I have a myspace account that my children and I have created.  I keep track of old friends and foster children in other states.  I would like to say that I trust my children and their friends.  I don't medal in their lives, maybe alittle.  But I know everything they do.  They talk to me about everything.  In this time of days.  We as parents need to be more open minded but we need to trust them and they will trust you.  All my kids friends are in there and I talk to all of them.  I enjoy the space we share with mutual friends.  I know my boundries and so do my kids.  I am blessed to have the kids I have and the kids I have aquired. 

January 21, 2009, 1:28 pm CST


I am a FACEBOOK mom. I started out on XANGA, went to MYSPACE, and now there is FACEBOOK. Having an account and access to my children's pages is a smart parental move. It is a great way to keep an eye on them and their friends to make certain they are not putting themselves in situations they are not yet old enough to handle. I do not invade their privacy, I do not answer their messages. I am friends with their firends, but only because no one seems to mind. The mother is right in keeping an eye on her child....Just not to be so invasive. The only reason for her interference, is if her daughter, or someone else is in danger, or natural consequences are not acceptable. You do not know who is trying to establish relationships with your children. It is our job as parents to protect them from the predators....I did have an occassion to put a stop to a man claiming he was a college student, he may or may not have been. However, he was always talking negatively to our daughter about her parents. I checked out his XANGA, only to find out that he was linked with a lot of other young girls, most seeming to have rebellious issues in the first place. My daughter was not in the category, she met him while at a friend's house. He tried to arrange a meeting...Luckily we were doing our job.

Now I ask you, we are advised to keep an eye on the internet and our children. The discussion and the bent that it is taking is contradictory. The mother is a little extreme, but otherwise, she is doing her job.

Thank you for your attention!  ; >

January 21, 2009, 1:30 pm CST


As a mother I would never treat one of my children like this. Of corse she is going to want to move far away from you. I think parents like you are one reason kids get into trouble.They feel like if there parents don't trust them, then why not have some fun. I got married young and can still remember being a teenager and I wanted to please my parents and I didn't do things they didn't want me to and I trusted my kids tell they gave me a reason not to. Now there both married resonsible adults and I am very proud of them so give them some slack. They may prove your a better parent then you think you are.
January 21, 2009, 1:31 pm CST

Phil have you lost your mind??

HELLO that's what's wrong with kids today...We give them all the space in the world...It's not my JOB to be my kids friend. WHEN she's 18 she can live her life but tell then her life is MINE to keep self. BACK off Phil your wrong on this one. My Mom and Dad where hard on me... OMG I had to be in at 9pm when I was a Sr in high school... But you know what I turned out good and my kid well too.
YOU GO MOM keep your kid self from the crazy's in the world!

January 21, 2009, 1:54 pm CST

People are JUST Wierd

Ok first the woman with the overbearing control over her daughter has issues hopefully they will get help and work things out.


Second the mother posting breast feeding pictures on the internet is an idiot.   First of all how old is the child?  Normal breastfeeding goes to maybe a year and then the kid eats normal food/milk/juice.  Maybe I am wrong but the kid looked to be a toddler and probably 2 or 3.  Yes it is a natural thing to breastfeed your  baby, but it should be private, not publicised and explotied on the internet.  As far as breastfeeding in public and on the net a child who is really not a baby and should be eating regular food, this mother even asked the kid if it wanted some milk.  If the child is old enough to tell you it wants milk then it can drink out of a glass or a sippie cup.  I think this mother has some fetishes she is getting her thrills with. 

January 21, 2009, 2:07 pm CST

Crazy people

Dr. Phil shoulda called today's show "The Weirdest People You're Glad You Don't Know".

That breastfeeding lady was so creepy that she could have been gnawing on a human arm and it would have been a lateral move.

And that chick who was "dating" Chandler Bing over facebook for like a year, and now has a "maternal" relationship with a teenage girl on the other side of the world? No part of that story is a good idea!
January 21, 2009, 2:24 pm CST

Breast Feeding and the Internet

Of all the pornographic and sickening images you can come across on the internet...and breast feeding is an issue? People need to get a life. The lady that you had on the show that was a radio personality was way off base too. I am 43 and I had my first child at the age of 20. While I was pregnant I wrestled with whether I wanted to nurse or not. My husband convinced me that I should for monetary I said I'd give it a try. I really didn't want to and I was so young and clueless that I kind of thought it was weird. That's right...something that has been done since the beginning of time, that gives life and security to a brand new little human being....I thought was almost nasty (for the lack of a better word). Well, I can say today that it was just about the very best decision I have ever made. A complete stranger gave me some perspective on the issue of public breast feeding. I was in a restaurant and my baby was hungry. I got up and went to the rest room to nurse her. This lady asked me what in the world I was doing sitting on the counter in a bathroom nursing. I explained to her that I didn't want to offend anyone, even though I was always discreet while nursing. She told me to get myself right back out to my table and that anyone that was offended could bring thier food into the rest room and eat. So from that day forward I looked at things differently. I'm not sure why a picture of someone nursing on the world wide web is of interest. It's not like it's vulgar or just don't look.

To the previous poster that was concerned about what age a child is when you nurse them...she should do a little research about health and breastfeeding. Some other cultures nurse way longer than we accept in our country. I nursed my child until she was one year old...and wish I had done it longer. I don't know of any other bonding that I had with my child that was as special as nursing.

Maybe a website promoting beautiful pictures of babies nursing and bonding with thier mothers is called for....or maybe there's already one !!

January 21, 2009, 2:24 pm CST

01/21 The Wild, Wild Web

Quote From: mistyd1973

HELLO that's what's wrong with kids today...We give them all the space in the world...It's not my JOB to be my kids friend. WHEN she's 18 she can live her life but tell then her life is MINE to keep self. BACK off Phil your wrong on this one. My Mom and Dad where hard on me... OMG I had to be in at 9pm when I was a Sr in high school... But you know what I turned out good and my kid well too.
YOU GO MOM keep your kid self from the crazy's in the world!

Unbelievable.  Really, listen to Dr. Phil.  It is good to be a concerned parent, but she is actually hurting her daughter by interfering so extensively.  This mom needs a therapist.  Nothing positive has come out of this.  She is pushing her daughter away by not trusting her daughter.  Mommy dearest needs to take a big step back, or their relationship will not get any better.
January 21, 2009, 2:30 pm CST

Breast feeding in Public

Quote From: andreemom

Breast feeding has been a topic talked about often in the years my 3 daughters were growing.


Some people are just not comfortable around exposed breasts. PERIOD.


Eating in public is one thing, but an exposed breast is something else.


I never understood how people can be so rude about it. I would never make a fuss about it, but I think it is just wrong. Cover up. Think about  your child when they are older, and look at these pictures, don't you think they will be uncomfortable?



I agree. There is no reason to make anyone uncomfortable. As a mom who breast fed 5 children I obviously have nothing against it. It is a natural human function... So is going to the bathroom. I don't think anyone wants to see that in public either! I think breast feeding should be a private time between a mother and her baby. Yeah, I know, babies get hungry in public... Use a breast pump to fill a bottle or go in the ladies room. Or at least cover up so it is not so obvious. Not that there is anything to be ashamed of... It's a matter of being considerate to others. Some people just don't care about other peoples' feelings.

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