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Topic : 04/09 “My Child Can’t Stop Eating”

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Created on : Friday, November 14, 2008, 03:17:09 pm
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(Original Air Date: 11/18/08) Dieters know how hard it is to shed five or 10 pounds. What do you do when you need to lose 100 pounds … and you’re just 10 years old? Dr. Phil talks to parents who say they can’t get their child to stop eating, and they fear this food addiction could turn deadly. Luz’s daughter, Kayla, is just 5 years old, but she already tips the scales at 113 pounds. Luz says her child throws temper tantrums when she doesn’t eat, and she once screamed so loudly for junk food, her neighbors called the police! Does Kayla have an eating disorder, or is Luz enabling her? Dr. Jim Sears, co-host of the hit show The Doctors, gives this mom a wake-up call. Then, Stephanie says her 3-year-old daughter, SaJatta, is addicted to sausage and grits. The toddler weighs 88 pounds and gets winded just walking up the stairs in her house. SaJatta’s grandmother, Mary, says the little girl is spoiled, and she doesn’t know how to say no to her. What do the results from SaJatta's blood work reveal? Can the family conquer her obesity? Plus, Mary says her daughter, Brittany, was an active child until she broke her ankle five years ago. Now at age 10, Brittany weighs 190 pounds, and her folks say she’s turned into a couch potato. How can Mary and her husband, Roger, motivate the child to lose weight? Fitness trainer Robert Reames has a surprise for the family! Talk about the show here.

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November 18, 2008, 8:26 am CST

11/18 “My Child Can’t Stop Eating”

I am very interested in watching this show, last year I taught one of the children on this show at a kids fitness gym. It was hard, she weighed almost as much as me, and now she weighs even more then she did then. It was hard to work with her and lift her, other kids would say things and were confused on why she was so much bigger then they were. Her family was a very nice family, but you could tell how food was used as a reward and an easy out when she got upset. Her brother was (is?) not over weight either, I really hope this little girl is able to get the help she needs, she had a sweet heart...
November 18, 2008, 10:40 am CST

lazy parenting

I think a big problem with the obesity in children is a lack of education on the part of the parent and lazy parenting. These kids are not buying the food so we can't blame them. If it is a matter of just saying no and going through some tantrums to save your child's life, then I think these parents have to wake up and get off their fannys and do their job. Don't buy the types of food that are going to add to the problem and I think that it is child abuse/neglect and the parents should be confronted by child protective services to show that  this will not be tolerated and there are no excuses. It bothers me when these parents blame the child ,it is rediculous and just another example of lazy and bad parenting. So bad parents, you get no sympathy from me, I just feel sorry for the poor kids.


      Laurie, Ca.

November 18, 2008, 10:55 am CST

Some people just don't get it

 It's not about the food.  That is a symptom of something else, whether medical or emotional. Just saying "Don't eat that." is like telling someone with a food addiction not to breathe.  While the rest of the world doesn't think about food unless they are hungry, food addicts have to consciously think about NOT eating, even when they are not hungry.  You have to fix the reason WHY they want to eat first, as in maybe Grandma is too busy to play and the child feels alone or "I'm so fat I can't do anything, so why bother."

My family bought very little junk food.  I'd scrounge money to buy it myself.  I'd spend my lunch money on junk.  I'd eat an entire box of Rice Krispies or cookies.  I'd STEAL food.  MY parents didn't make me fat by buying food-that's just a foolish concept.  I made myself fat because I felt like no one was there when I needed them and food was (still is).  My only saving grace is I love excercise, so while I'm obese, I still walk, ride a bike, play soccer, hike, etc and have no medical problems (49-no high blood pressure, no diabetes, no thyroid, no heart trouble, no narrowing of the arteries-no one can believe it)

Food addiction is usually an emotional problem-trying to fill up the empty space as the 10 year old put it (a very smart child to realize this).  In her case, it is probably the difficulties between her parents she is picking up on. For the younger ones, it may be not having much time with mom because she has to work.  But until you can fix the void, having parents taking the food away won't fix the problem.  It might help, but it won't be solved.  The kids will find food somewhere else. 

If you haven't lived it, you probably don't get it. It's a sucky experience thing.
November 18, 2008, 11:10 am CST

I find it ironic

Is it just me that thinks it's odd to find advertising for "The Ultimate Chocolate Dessert Guide" on the slides for a show on obesity??  Wouldn't it have been better to have an add for a healthy "kid friendly" foods cookbook?  I guess advertising dollars speak loudest. 


I agree with most of the other posters that it's the parents' responsibility to monitor their children's intake as well as get them involved in some sort of physical activity.  Get them off the couch, turn off the TV, put down the video games and go outside to play.  If there aren't other children in the neighborhood with which to play then go outside with them and toss a ball around, ride bikes, fly a kite.  The activities are only limited by motivation.  They are only young once.  Enjoy the moments together because it sure is quiet and a little bit lonely when they grow up and move away.  And generally if you find an over weight child you will find an over weight parent.  Same goes for an over weight pet.  If they are kept physically busy then there is also less time to worry about finding something to eat. 

November 18, 2008, 12:15 pm CST

your child needs some disipline

I can't believe that your child weighs 113lbs, from your video, it seems she had never been told NO. Child abuse falls under all catagories, and feeding her this way seems to be a form of that. She could use some therapy and a nutritional specialist. I am not you, so I can't say that I can totally blame you for her weight, but she needs help now.
November 18, 2008, 12:31 pm CST

11/18 “My Child Can’t Stop Eating”

The correct expression is "Even if she were...| "not even if she was..."
November 18, 2008, 12:34 pm CST

Like Mother, Like Child!

What is it they don't understand?!!!  I once read something to the effect that an overweight mom does not "see" a true image of her own child.  This seems to be proven out by the number of overweight moms you see with overweight children.  In addition, they often make excuses for weight problems such as "the child will outgrow it or it runs in our family/everyone is BIG"......  I know that lack of education plays a part in all of this but unless you're living in a cave, you can hardly have missed the media attention obesity has gotten of late.  I, personally, want obesity to be placed in the same category as neglect when it comes to child abuse.  No parent(s) have the right to pre-dispose their own child/children to future life-threatening health issures.  If removing at risk children from their homes for a period of time in order to quite possibly save their lives, then maybe that's what needs to be done.
November 18, 2008, 12:47 pm CST

This is Child Abuse

Dr Phil is usually so aggressive with people who are doing the wrong thing and yet he's being so kind to these parents who are clearly abusing their children. I don't get it. This really is no different than physical abuse - these children are slowly dying because they eat too much and too much of the wrong things and it's the parents who are providing the food.


And this is not the first time that he's been just way too nice to mothers who overfeed their kids - a few years ago, I distinctly remember a similar show where a little girl had actually died as a result of her obesity. Her mother said that she died of a broken heart as a result of being teased because she was fat...and Dr Phil didn't tell her the truth: that she'd killed her daughter by feeding her everything she wanted.


He keeps sayiing "they can't get their children to stop eating." I think it's pretty simple. Stop. Feeding. Them. These kids can't cook for themselves, don't do the groceries, and only eat what's available and within reach. They're also driven by the same needs that drive their absolute "need" for a new toy or to stay up past their bedtime. It's all about rules, boundries and proper parenting.  And that includes diet.


This is a huge problem that has lifelong consequences - if they even get to live their lives - and  I'm waiting for the first criminal case to surface - these people really need to be charged with child abuse for overfeeding their kids.


November 18, 2008, 12:50 pm CST

shouldnt be over weight

the parents should be ashmed of them sevles letting these kids eat and eat  my niece is always stealing food too and nobody seems to care and shes 12 and weighs almost 200lbs they should hide the food or dont get it at all
November 18, 2008, 12:54 pm CST

Parents needs help, too

Many parents make mistakes in parenting.  None of us are perfect, but at least these parents acknowledge there is a problem and have asked for help.  One of my grandchildren (4 yrs old)was grossly overweight, much as we have seen on this program.  The only thing the pediatrician said was "She needs to loose weight.  Make her exercise more and eat less."  He did not give any advise as to how to do this.  It was obvious to me that scolding and withholding food was not the answer.  I made it my mission to ehlp this grandchild.  Fortunately, both my son and his wife were willing to try anything I suggested.  Nothing had worked up to this time.  The first thing I did was to find a way to not deny my granddaughter food.  We set up a shelf in the refrigerator and pantry where she could eat freely any time she wanted.  In the fridge, we prepared carrot, celery, and cucumber sticks, cherry tomatoes, grapes, apple slices,etc.  There were brightly colored sippy cups filled with water.  We also elimainated all  high sugar, high salt, and high fat foods from the house. (We have all become healthier, by the way.) She was never allowed to be hungry, because she always had something she could eat. I think some of her "hunger" may have been a way of seeking control.  I found children's videos that included lots of dancing, singing, and movement.  This was what she watched when she was given TV time. She loved them.  We encouraged her to show and teach us what she had seen, and she glowed with pride in doing so.  It became much easier for her to play with other children at the park, and has learned to ride a bicycle. She is now in first grade and has lots of friends and not on the side lines anymore.  She is even making good choices in her school lunches.  What we started 2 years ago has become habit for us all.
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