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Topic : 03/07 Dr. Phil Now: Sex Offenders Next Door

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Created on : Thursday, March 06, 2008, 04:36:16 am
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Don’t miss Dr. Phil’s exclusive interview with Brianna Denison's mother who is speaking out for the first time since her daughter's body was found. Nineteen-year-old Brianna made headlines when she was kidnapped while she slept on a friend's couch. Brianna's killer – an alleged serial rapist -- is still on the loose in Reno, NV. And, a controversial issue is heating up the headlines: Where should registered sex offenders live when they’re released from prison? Residents of Long Beach, California say not in their neighborhood. They’re outraged that an apartment building is allegedly housing 13 registered sex offenders, and the building owner is reportedly receiving $1,000 per month to house them. Former tenants, James and Getania, were disgusted to learn that the sex offenders were living in their building, and local residents weren’t happy either. Dawna owns several properties near the apartment complex. She says she’s losing tenants and the sex offenders are stalking others. Then, Jake Goldenflame, a registered sex offender who was convicted of molesting his daughter and young boys over 25 years ago, says he's still attracted to teenage boys, but says people like him have no resources and need to live somewhere. What does Dr. Phil think? Should the sex offenders be forced to leave the community, or should their neighbors just learn to live with them? If it's happening now, Dr. Phil is going to deal with it now! Join the discussion.

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March 6, 2008, 5:38 pm CST


Quote From: trlemay

I am the mother of a sex offender...I'll explain, my son at the age of 19 ( by one month) met a girl on MySpace whom he thought was 21.  She had posted 21, she looked 18, I think. They got together after chatting online several times.  He has always liked girls a few years older than him...he asked questions such as "where's your car"  she replied, "it's in the shop", he made other comments and asked other things, she had a reply that would validate her age of 21.  They were together consensually twice.  This girl has been dating a 23 year old and others, my son just happened to be the one to admit to knowing her and being with her, he didn't think anything of it when questioned by the authorities.  This girl was actually 14, her father is an investigator the the local sheriff's dept.  My son is sitting in jail with a whole bunch of young guys in this same situation, he is also sitting in jail with a man that sexually abused his own 4 year old daughter, older men who have forced themselves on young girls within the same age of the girl that my son was with.  I ask why do we place ALL of these people in the same bucket and label them the same?  My thoughts are that the sex offenders have different classifications for the degree of the offense.  Do you agree?  I thought the same as all of you who have expressed your thoughts and feelings as to where they should live and how "they" should be treated by society.  I thought those thoughts until I walked in the shoes of the mother of a sex offender.  I can't express the hurt that I feel, not for me, but for my son and the other kids that do have the scarlet letter forever stamped on their forehead.  Where does my son live when he gets out, where does he work, is banning sex offenders from neighborhoods discrimination, is it fair?  This "girl" that I speak of is still advertising herself on MySpace, with the same age of 21 posted, with the same picture that makes her look pretty close to the age she has posted.  Her life didn't stop, her life didn't change, she's not locked up for entrapment or lying or changing my son's life forever.  What's fair about that 
 I am sorry to hear about your son and the situation that has happened.  I do not necessarily feel that it is fair.  But what about those kids who maybe are 21 or so and they are looking to prey on a minor who may only be 14 or 15.  They could say that thought that person was older too.  The line is very thin.  I personally do not think that a "sex offender" should be alive.  The rehabilition is what, less then 10%?  Gimme a break.  We don't need more laws.  We need to enforce the laws we have and quit wasting time and money on species that hurt others.  I do pray for your family as it seems as if your sons new "title" will be a death wish for him.
March 6, 2008, 5:39 pm CST

Sex Offenders

I have raised my children and now have grandchildren to worry about.  I don't want them to be in of harm's ways including sexual predators.  That means I, of course, do not want them anywhere near them.


When I look at my girls I see such innocence and it scares me. I can't be with them to watch over them and make sure that they are safe.  I trust my son to watch over them and I pray a lot for the angels to sit on their shoulders and protect them.


However, I think on some level we all need to take a better look at what our kids are exposed to each and every day.  I guess none of us know if there are more evil people around than when we were growing up but I often wonder how much care we give to our kids in telling them what is correct behavior and what isn't.  I don't know that it would stop these bad things from happening but it certainly would help.


I see these busy families with two incomes trying to just stay afloat and little time to be totally in tune with what is happening on a day by day basis.  What are they watching on television?  How many WEB sites are they visiting?  What kind of WEB sites are they on?  Who are they texting to?  Who are their friends and their friend's parents?


We always want to put all the blame on others but forget to clean our own house first.  It isn't safe in this world and we need to teach our children to be safe.  We need better education in the schools about family and socially correct behavior. I am not suggesting that it's all the fault of family but family needs to be more in touch with what our kids are doing.


As far as predators go, I believe that they should be placed in prison and not allowed to ever be free again.  It is said that they cannot be rehabilitated so why would we want them back in society to repeat the same behavior.  It just doesn't make sense.  We send people to prison for life for killing adults but yet we allow predators back out to ruin another child's life???  These children that will grow up to run our world when the rest of us are gone???


Send these evil people to a place where they will live out their lives AWAY from our kids, no where near them.  Don't ever give them the chance to commit another assault on the innocence of our youth. 




Teach our youngster about emotional health.




March 6, 2008, 5:56 pm CST

They have to live somewhere...

Quote From: harrietden

Sex Offenders, and people who share and make child pornography don't get punished severely enough so that in no time at all they are out ready to take over the neighbourhoods, god help us. 


Maybe if more women were in charge of making the decisions instead of mostly men who sympathise with these characters, the punishment that is offered might be enough to scare them straight.  Hmmmmm?


Sexual Offenders have to live somewhere, though.  The scariest thing to me is not knowing the severity of the offense, or if they are truly a danger to me or anyone I know.  Jail doesn't really change a predator (the no-remorse, truly sick ones).  And then they're lumped together with guys that pee in public, so you don't know who really desserves the pariah label.  All you can do is protect yourself, carry mace, and be aware of your surroundings.





March 6, 2008, 6:16 pm CST

sex offenders

 hi dr.phil

I think that all those sex offenders should be locked up and the key thrown away  can't wait to see the show


see you on Friday Feb 7 at 4:00pm

H wilson

March 6, 2008, 6:24 pm CST

Sex Offenders

I understand that San Quinton is available.  Let them molest each other.

March 6, 2008, 6:26 pm CST

where they should live

I wish that they could all live together so that if they are at have a moment and want to offend again it would be against each other I believe that most of these animals do not get better and that they are sick in their brain and always will be its almost like its hardwired in their brain...They should not be allowed to stay with us or by us...
March 6, 2008, 6:33 pm CST

It is entrapment - I'd call a lawyer!

Quote From: inspiration07

I don't believe your son is a sex offender. I don't think anyone who is tricked or lied to in a situation like that is. I also don't believe two teens having sex should label one as a sex offender. It's unfortunate that your son is dumped into the category with the real criminals. I believe when people mention punishments for sex offenders they are referring to the sick people preying on small children and abusing our youth. The kids pretending to be older than they are should face consequences. It's not right nor is it justice for them to get away with what they are doing. The ruin Innocent people's lives and don't have to own up to what they've done.

IFall of this is true and she actually has false information STILL on her site. Then I would be calling a lawyer. From what you have stated she lied if at no point did she ever reveal her truthful age before consenting to sex then she is to blame and if the father hasn't taken her off of the websites and banned her for life for doing such a horrifying and scary thing like this on her own? Then there is a problem right there! IF all you state IS TRUE then you know as well as anyone new now meeting your son for the first time will know too once the horrible story has to be retold, that this is not the work of a rapist! (It's too plain to see...)
March 6, 2008, 6:47 pm CST

03/07 Dr. Phil Now: Disturbing Headlines

When the individual made the choice to molest, he made the choice to forfeit his rights as he knew them.



March 6, 2008, 6:50 pm CST

What if the sex offender is a Minor


How scary is it that if you are a minor that they do not have  a registary. And we have to protect them for there safety. And if they live in your own house you can not even protect your other childern with out being under securny of social services.

The laws need to be changed!  From personal experience we are saying this is ok until you are 18 and you get caught, but by that time they have learned to out smart the system. And now my daughter has to attend school with him and we are not allowed to tell anyone cause it would violate his rights!


March 6, 2008, 7:26 pm CST

Not knowing is far WORSE

I know that people are terrified of knowing that a sexual offender lives anywhere near them, but think of it in another way.  How would you like to live next to someone that has sexually molested 4 different children and has never seen the inside of a police station.  I wish this was only a scenerio I just wrote about, but it is not.  It is MY LIFE.  This piece of trash is my brother.  He molested myself and my sister at around the age of 5 yrs old.  We were never allowed to speak about it to anyone.  Then for the next 14 yrs I would sleep every night with my door locked and knots in my stomach.  I always felt that I was dealing with it and it was in my past.  Little did I know what was about to happen.  I have not worked in over 4 yrs now, I suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Anxiety Disorder, Depression and can see the signs of Agoraphobia.  I would have never guessed that by not speaking of what happened to me would consume the rest of my life.  On a nice Sunday in August of 2006, my mother in law called me to tell me that my daughter (10 yrs old) just told her that her Uncle had tried to have sex with her when she was 5 yrs old.  It was like opening a wound and pouring all the salt in the world on it.  I can't lie, I wanted to kill him and if my husband hadn't stopped me, I might have done it.  We took all the proper and legal steps, even though years had passed since the incident.  We filed the necessary reports with our local Sheriffs Dept.  Several weeks later we received a call from the Detective letting us know that our case was being closed due to lack of evidence.  They never even picked him up for questioning.  They simply went to his home (actually my deceased father's home) and asked him if he had committed this act and he said "NO".  I have since written to all our State Reps, Senators, Governor, County Manager, County Commissioners, District Attorney and Sheriff.  Guess What????  Sorry ma'am, but your case lacks evidence.  NO ONE CAN AND/OR WILL HELP US!!!!!!!  What is really scary is,  I was molested in 1977 and my daughter in 2001.  What happened during that 24 yr span that we don't know about?  So, while I understand everyones concerns about living near a sexual offender, but at least you know who they are and where they are.  Oh and on the subject of what type of punishment they should receive, in my opinion, if they are true sexual offenders, they should have tiny razor cuts all over them, place them in a room with a wonderful view and fill the fire sprinklers with rubbing alcohol, then set them to go off constantly.  This way, they can suffer for the rest of their lives while watching the world just pass them by. 
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