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Topic : 01/21 Real Life Gossip Girls

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Created on : Friday, January 18, 2008, 02:22:49 pm
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Some teens are catty, mean and love to spread lies, but what happens when gossip goes too far? Kim says her daughter, Kailey, was the victim of a prank. Two of Kailey's cheer squad friends took a picture of her while she was in the shower, and the image supposedly made its way around the football team. Now, in the aftermath, the whole town is buzzing. You won't believe what the fathers of the alleged perpetrators have to say about the incident. Another girl claims she was also a victim when one of the girls took an unwanted photo of her as a joke. Hear from this alleged victim. And, Mandie and Nikki threatened the life of a classmate on MySpace after they thought she was going to steal Nikki's boyfriend. They were convicted in a court of law three years ago, and now both families say they face losing their homes because of this teen gossip. What do the girls say about their actions? And, Elizabeth started a Web site that allows anyone to gossip about anything. When a victim of lies posted on her site tells her story, will Elizabeth change her view? Share your thoughts here.

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January 21, 2008, 9:50 am CST

They were punished

Quote From: elleyfromohio

I could t not believe both of the girls who pulled this prank are back on the cheer leading squad, and go on with nothing more than a slap on the hand!  Both of them should have been prosecuted on pornographic charges.  The victims parents should sue both the school and the parents so this type of garbage stops.  It went on 10,20,30, 40 years ago, and it only takes 1 person to throw that pebble into the water to make the change.  I sincerely hope both of those brats are punished to the fullest extent of the law.

The girls were punished and there IS a lawsuit pending against them....did you not see the show? This will cost their parents..and them...big time.


They were definitely wrong; it's always wrong to trash another person, any way you choose to do it! I think they get that what they did was really stupid, and I'm glad the law did jerk a knot in their tails!

January 21, 2008, 10:05 am CST

01/21 Real Life Gossip Girls

Quote From: dma5977

Yes, what the two girls did on MySpace sucks..but to sue the families TWO YEARS later!!?? That is not right either..I'd like to know what damages they could possibly sue for. Crystal was the victim, she would have gotten all the sympathy, which she deserves, don't get me wrong..but obviously, the threats the 2 girls made were not carried out.They have paid..They are now very likely the subjects of the same kind of crap they pulled on the other girl.So, why do their FAMILIES have to pay MONEY ?? For what??


How many of us with kids can say we know /knew EVERYTHING they are doing. I had normal kids, who somtimes screwed up. NOt pefect ones,like the ones you all apparently have. I think parents like to think they have raosed perfect children and give themselves pats on the back..Well  folks, think again, because there is no perfect. The only differences is in HOW we screwed our kids up.


Sometimes, the things they did and said completely shocked me. They are all now grown, college educated, good jobs..not perfect,just like I am not..and they will mess up raising their kids,too.


I was the victim of MUCH gossip as a teenager.My family was so very openly dysfunctional and my mother did stuff that caused the whole little town we lived in to TALK AND TALK.I rose above it..or It made me cry..It also made me stronger. My life was threatened ,verbally..Those girls were dealt with..and we actually became friends..

WTF is the other mother thnking she is teaching her daughter about monetary gain..Yuck..

You ask why should the parents of these girls be sued? The answer is that they are minors and their parents are by law responsible for what they do.


I raised three kids of my own, 1 boy and 2 girls, and I made it my business to know what they were up to all the time. Also, I taught them from the time they were tiny that certain things are simply not acceptable!  Kindness to others was among the lessons they learned early. Compassion, empathy, consequences for unacceptable behavior, and spirituality were others.


No, they weren't perfect...but I never saw them do anything to anyone that was mean-spirited..and, to this day, with families of their own now, they are the sweetest, kindest, most caring people you would ever want to meet and they teach their children the same values. 


It starts when they are little.....if you are too lazy to teach values to your kids then, then don't whine when they do stupid stuff later on. They are not born knowing the rules of society!  

January 21, 2008, 10:21 am CST

01/21 Real Life Gossip Girls

Quote From: jennpianokeys

I can recall the times  I've been  picked on and it just flat out sucked.  Unfortunately the behavior is rooted from up-bringing and the status quo.  Individuality isn't really embraced until the later part of highschool and on to college.  If a classmate was wearing something from walmart, and not the top dog stores everyone shopped at, then he/she was considered a dork and sometimes, terribly picked on.  That was me in middle school, when my mom was in between jobs and my father being the only provider.  Improvising on a small dime did not win many social graces for me.  But, it taught me to behave better than the way I was treated, and eventually that quality would stand out much much more than a pair of gap jeans, or a mercedes.  I learned that the people who did pick on me had less on the scale of brand name posessions than I did, and way less in terms of an emotional  healthy, and supportive home environment.  (Just my two cents) 

Unfortunately, bullying has always gone on....I was picked on  as was everyone I know...but nowdays, with the internet and kids so materialistic, parents gone all the time, not bringing up their children with a sense of empathy, and letting them get away with so much without any consequences, these kids are taking it to a whole new level.


The little twit that was on the show today who set up a gossip website so people could trash each other is a prime example. If any of my kids even thought about doing such a thing there would be some severe consequences!!  Her parents must be real proud of her, huh.   

January 21, 2008, 10:31 am CST

01/21 Real Life Gossip Girls

Quote From: juliebgg

To the parents who are in danger of losing their homes: If you would have controlled your nasty daughters in the first place you wouldn't be in this mess.  I wouldn't be surprised if these parents were the "girls will be girls" type.  As long as it wasn't THEIR daughters getting picked  on, it was okay, right Mom and Dad??  Did you ever monitor your daughters' behavior, or did you hand them cell phones, and computers and let them run free with them  to do whatever pleased their little hearts?  Were you great "pals" with your daughters exercising no discipline and giving no guidelines on how to be decent human beings so you could look cool to them?  Did you ever use the word "no" to them? Well it looks like their failure to raise decent human beings came back to bite them in the end and in a very expensive way.

So true, so true!!


I have said these things for years!! You are  NOT your children's FRIEND!! You are the only thing between them and disaster on so many levels. Kids have friends....they need PARENTS!!


Check out my site: NONONSENSEGRAMMYTREE.BLOGSPOT.COM to find many postings regarding parenting and grandparenting, in-laws (and outlaws) :)   

January 21, 2008, 10:31 am CST

People who live in glass houses...

Quote From: itzsecret

I agree -  I hope my message gets posted --
 I happen to be off of work today and caught this show. I live in the bordering school district from which the My space girls attend. I was very moved by the story and feel it should be shown at school to preteens/teens. It's real vs "my mom says" . That being said,  Obviously, to bash these parents you must be one of those "Perfect" parents of "perfect" kids. I have a preteen daughter and a teenage son. My husband and I monitor their freinds, their emails, their phones, etc. We attend all of their school events and we are NOT absent parents trying to be their best friends. However... I would never say that with my diligence they will do nothing wrong. They are kids. Kids do things without thinking it do a lot of adults for that matter. If my daughter or son made this type of mistake it would not be because we haven't talked about it or the consequences. It is just that these kids get in the moment and get caught up in wrong behavior.  To sue a family over teenage verbal threats goes beyond "making them be accountable for their actions"(that happened in court) and says to me.. "let me profit from this".  To blame the parents for the girls immature mistakes is wrong.   I also am not an idiot who feels "kids will be kids" but I am one who says we all have to make mistakes to learn right from wrong.  As a parent, I only hope that my children's mistakes are minor ones. Children will make Mistakes.. regardless of parenting. The parents who feel that they are supreme parenting masters and because of this their children would never do anything wrong.. shouldn't crow so loud because you just never know.  The internet has opened up a new avenue for all types of wrong behavior but it most likely isn't new behavior just accessible by more people. 
January 21, 2008, 11:01 am CST

I like your response

Quote From: barbgkess


iI am a Jew- and according to the laws of my faith, gossip is a sin that is considered to be as serious as murder.  In Hebrew it is referred to as  "Lashon Ha rah" - the evil tongue. Remember " Thou Shalt not Murder"! Gossip is murdering someone's good name. 


In an ethics class at my synagogue my Rabbi put it this way:

 Two people could have adulterous sex in the synagogue sanctuary in front of the open Ark on Yom Kippur and then eat a ham and cheese sandwich... and the Rabbis of the Talmud would write that gossiping about them was just as evil a sin as what they had done.


I teach high school- and  I tell my students this: I will never say anything about you that I would hesitate to say to you.  If I overhear gossip in my classroom I Immediately shut it down by asking these questions:

                                Was this done directly to you?

                                Were you there or are you hearing about it?

                               Do you know for an absolute fact that it is true?

                                  Does repeating the story cause harm or embarassment?

                           Are you a person who hurts others for your own amusement??

It usually stops them.


I think that as a high school teacher you are doing a great service to your students by addressing this whenever you have the opportunity.  The questions are thought provoking and a great way of showing that it is honorable to not say anything about someone that you would not say to him.


I was taught to not repeat anything that did not benefit, bless or build up.

January 21, 2008, 11:05 am CST

Eye for an Eye

I would like for someone to suggest that these girls agree to have a photo of themselves made in identical circumstance taken and then passed around like that did to the victim.  How about that for punishment and letting them see exactly the humiliation and hurt they have caused.
January 21, 2008, 11:31 am CST

of disagreement there

Quote From: lmcin2

It is so easy to blame the parents but having been through some rough years with two teenagers I can vouch for the fact that not everything can be laid on the parents.  These girls are old enough to know better and should be held accountable.

of course, no disagreement there.  it's not always that black and white.  Certainly, we all reach a few grey spots. 
January 21, 2008, 11:51 am CST

Real Life Gossip Girls

I think it's ashame that girls would treat each other this way. Come on, Where are the parents?Teach your kids to be better than that. This kind of  behavoir will turn around and bite you.
January 21, 2008, 12:29 pm CST


If they think this is bad wait to college.  People do this all the time nothing new here its over if the family cant get over it MOVE out of that town!!!

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