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Topic : 01/08 Cyber Bullies

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Created on : Friday, January 04, 2008, 02:07:51 pm
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You've heard the saying, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” But what happens when someone posts malicious comments about you on the Internet? This trend, known as e-vengeance or cyber bullying, can have deadly consequences. Thirteen-year-old Megan Meier committed suicide after being taunted on MySpace by “Josh,” whom she believed to be a cute teenage boy. Unbeknownst to her parents, Ron and Tina, Josh’s profile was fake, which they believe was created by an adult neighbor to monitor Megan. Was this a case of freedom of speech, or harassment? A state senator proposing anti-cyber-bullying legislation and a First Amendment attorney weigh in. Then, Colorado councilwoman Sandy Tucker made national headlines when she posted a controversial joke online. When the mayor asked her to remove remarks he considered offensive, Sandy refused and then resigned. She doesn't feel the need to apologize and says people need to lighten up. Holly lives in Sandy's town, and joins the show via Web cam to tell the former councilwoman why the joke is no laughing matter. Plus, meet a man who says he's constantly taunted by racist slurs while playing Xbox Live. Join the discussion.

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January 8, 2008, 7:14 am CST

"World of Warcraft" Has Great On-Line "Supervision"

BLIZZARD ENTERTAINMENT has WORLD of War craft an on-line, real time game that has players join guilds and have their people work together as teams; however, if ANYONE is abusive, bullying, "illegal" in ANYWAY, players are either warned, suspended, removed permanently and whatever other action is deemed necessary! Good for them! Perhaps other companies should take note...I believe they have more then 2000 customer service agents working 24/7 to assist with complaints in addition to other areas of concern. 
January 8, 2008, 7:20 am CST

Can You Say "Role Model"?

I have HUGE issues with the black man on the Dr. Phil show today crying about how he can't play his XBox game because of some racists. As a black woman born in the sixties, the first thing that I would say is: What else is new? If I were his wife I would be seriously pissed at him for continuing to place his family in danger over a stupid game. Yes, I called it stupid. How old is this guy? 59? I mean, it's like, you had better not come and murder my whole family. I have a right to play this game. What does he do for a living? Why is the safety of his family compromiseable for the ability to interact in an environment that is pretty much so warped anyway? I would ask him what kind of example he feels he is setting fro his children. It just blows my mind how people expect wholesome, healthy and emotionally enriching experiences on the Internet which is in many ways one of society's biggest problems today. I certainly don't condone racial hatred and I think that he should pursue justice, but again I say, I have grown up in a country whose history has included amongst other things the wonderful sport of swinging dead Negroes from trees with their genitals in their mouths. I think Billie Holliday called the song "Strange Fruit".   
January 8, 2008, 7:25 am CST

It's Wrong

  I don't know what it's like to be bullied. I do think it's wrong, especially if it's happening more than once. Legal action should be taken. I think that if they complain more than once, Microsoft should take action against this person. I think that to a certain point there should be right of speach online, and on games, but then when it comes to where it's threatining, that should not be tolerated. I hope that everyone who's being bullied on these games takes some sort of action. Maybe microsoft should put up a block on people who have bullied people more than once.
January 8, 2008, 7:31 am CST

we need to make are children stronger aganst this we need to tell them if they know its not true then ignore it. These bullys feed off it. If we as parents cant monitor are children put a block on it or tell them they cant get on untill an adult can super

January 8, 2008, 7:38 am CST

I know how it feels to be picked on i was the tall over wieght freak in class i was spit on and harassed i would come home crying i could not wait untill i graduated i even was called horrible names on line but i went to some one and i stood up for myself

January 8, 2008, 7:42 am CST

X-Box and You Tube Censorship

   As a former Black Hawk Down player, I know for a certainty that there are ways to curtail even some verbal abuse online. I don't know about x-Box, but there are filters like Punk-Buster, and locked server-based teams that can kick out problem players who abuse their priviledges. We had a great team and even did reconnaissance through mikes and headsets in order to win battles. All in good fun, but this was all PC based gaming years ago. Seems that the gaming consoles may have taken a step backward in hindering people from  their power to ignore. Suggestion: Play on a team or start your own server, and ONLY play other teams that have the same security standards as yours.

Microsoft could very well block offending text from ever showing up on screen though, if they really wanted to.


Embedded voice-over messages in video is another thing that could be filtered through voice recognition software on the You Tube servers, where their system could examine the video during uploading and convert the verbal message to text , meanwhile using a censoring bot to kick out the abusive or immoral/illegal message and it's source, thereby the video would never appear in public.

 A review of the offending text that is created by the voice-recognition software could also be a streamlined process to find child-molesters while they are posting their agenda,  expediting the process of arrest and conviction more efficiently. 


January 8, 2008, 7:48 am CST

The Online Gamer

     I totally agree, this kind of behavior on the internet is not acceptable. I am confused regarding Microsofts response. I play in a game site and if anyone decides to cross the line (threats, or foul language) we can report them and their account is shut down. It is simple, alot of sites use this tool.
January 8, 2008, 7:51 am CST

Cyber Bullies

Im just wondering why no one is talking about the mother? I know this was a tradgey but her daughter came to her for help and the mother said in her own words she yelled at the daughter and pretty much blamed her for the bullying. When all the daughter wanted was the mother to be there and comfort her and help her through this instead the mother turned her back why is this not being disscused??
January 8, 2008, 7:53 am CST

Cyber Bullies

 My heart and prayers go out to you and all the children that have fallen prey to this nightmare. I watched the show this morning and am appaled that ANY living, breathing human being could sit there and talk about "people's freedom of speech" when the freedom is used in such a malicious,  wreckless, irresponsible way as to make a CHILD commit suicide.This country is constantly reminding us as parents how much more advanced other countries are academically and have raised the standards to in my opinion to such a ridicilous standard that it's virtually impossible to have a "happy child". Then you get people that are twisted for whatever reason that use the technology we parents bring into our homes to help our children advance or excel academically and turn it into a lethal weapon. How can anyone honestly say "Freedom Of Speech" when a child's freedom has been totally ripped away by that very same freedom we claim we deserve? I ask the 1st. Ammendent official and anyone else with a child or children ,if this were your child , would you still feel as strongly as you do today to the Freedom Of Speech right. With all due respect I know from experience the the law that is supposed to apply to all does not---if you are in a "high" position,the system CAN and Does get changed so that the criminal is punished but when you are a common person then somehow the victim becomes the criminal. In this case I kept hearing how "parents" need to monitor and ..... How can UNO become porn----FREEDOM FROM PUNISHMENT. May God be with you and your family always and I will pray that your efforts are to no avail. I am so sorry for your loss.
January 8, 2008, 7:58 am CST

01/08 Cyber Bullies

Quote From: love_bug

In response to the show I watched today, I think that every adult should have to read the book."ALL I REALLY NEED TO KNOW I LEARNED IN KINDERGARTEN" by Robert Fulghum  

All I really need to know about how to live, and what to do, and how to be I learned in kindergarten. Wisdom was not at the top of the graduate school mountain, but there in the sand pile at school.  

These are the things I learned:   

  • Share everything.
  • Play fair.
  • Don't hit people.
  • Put things back where you found them.
  • Clean up your own mess.
  • Don't take things that aren't yours.
  • Say you're sorry when you hurt somebody.
  • Wash your hands before you eat.
  • Flush.
  • Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you.
  • Live a balanced life - learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some.
  • Take a nap every afternoon.
  • When you go out in the world, watch out for traffic, hold hands and stick together.
  • Be aware of wonder. Remember the little seed in the Styrofoam cup: the roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody really knows how or why, but we are all like that.
  • Goldfish and hamsters and white mice and even the little seed in the Styrofoam cup - they all die. So do we.
  • And then remember the Dick-and-Jane books and the first word you learned - the biggest word of all - LOOK.

Everything you need to know is in there somewhere. The Golden Rule, and love, and basic sanitation.  Ecology, and politics, and equality, and sane living.    

Take any one of those items and extrapolate it into sophisticated adult terms and apply it to your family life or your work or government or your world and it holds true and clear and firm. Think what a better world it would be if we all - the whole world - had cookies and milk at about 3 o'clock in the afternoon and then lay down with our blankies for a nap. Or if all governments had as a basic policy to always put things back where they found them and to clean up their own mess.  

And it is still true, no matter how old you are, when you go out in the world, it is best to hold hands and stick together.  


I just cant believe how anyone would intentionally hurt another person.  There SHOULD be laws on the books for this!  I back up the amendment for freedom of speech, but NOT when it interferes with anothers persute of happiness.  Im not all that PC, in fact I think that were getting out of hand in some instances with it, however in the situation with that council member posting that joke" on her professional website; I agree that she was wrong.  What you do on your own time and on your own dime is your business, but youre supposed to be a professional, held to higher standards than others.  One of my favorite sayings (I repeat this over and over to my 4 children) Just because you can doesnt mean that you should.   Sure, you can say ugly things to people, but you shouldnt.  We can clone people for spare parts (it can be done) but that doesnt mean that we should.  Where has common sense gone???  Sometimes I wish that someone would just slap these people upside the head to knock some sense into them.  There are too many people with WAY TOO much time on their handsget a productive hobby, get a job, get a life.   

AMEN!!! So elequently put. Pretty unfortunate how the lessons to an easy life seem too easy so we have to change/modify them to suit us.I LOVE the cookies and blankie concept.
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