Topic : 04/07 Will Fights

...which I hope she'll never need, all I can say is GO GIRL GO!!!!!

She's lucky to have a daughter like you!

NO relative, not even a parent, is obligated to leave others a dime in their will. Any inheritance received needs to be treated as a sacred gift to be used in ways which honor both the gift and the giver. Yes, that can include paying off debts, or some needed purchases, as long as an attitude of gratitude is present. My wife had an aunt die and leave her some money, part of which we used to trade cars. That car became "Aunt B" and in some ways it became difficult to trade it off when the time came because of the emotions attached to it.  BTW, the rest of the money was put in savings, where it still is, drawing a little interest. It seemed like the responsible thing to do with an unexpected inheritance. Fighting over money which wasn't yours to begin with is evil at work.

The sisters on the show need to realize their aunt could have given all of her money to a dog shelter. The bi_ches sheltered there might have appreciated it more.

The second couple did nothing to honor the father. Dr. Phil is right. They need to learn from this major gaffe and get some sound financial money management advice.

  This weeks show touch home with me.  My sister, brother and myself our not speaking to our three older half sisters.  My second from the oldest sister took in my mom in 1997.  Two years prior my mom(divorced years earlier) had recieved an inheritance from my childless aunt for $100,000.  My sister took my my mom out to her neighbor that was a lawyer to supposebly have a Will done, so we thought.  She really had herself put on as power of attorney.  One year before she moved my mom in with her she remove the money and had it put into a mutual fund. Unknown to my mom were her activities.  My mom had dementia and the starting of altzheimers.  I live out of state and my mom came for a visit with my sister and her husband.  When we were alone to talk my mom told me of her concern that my sister wasn't doing the right thing with her money. I made my mom a promise that I would speak with my aunt and get to the bottom of things.  After much discussion with my aunt my third sister was added on to oversee all activities.  I was told when you have dementia you become paronoid and that this was nothing more than this.  As time went on I wanted to trust things were done right.  You always hear things like this happens in families.  Another red flag should of been when my brother- in- law's family accused him and my sister of doing the same thing years earlier to his mother and father.  Our concern at the time was for my moms well being.  We sat back and watched as my sister added on twice to her house.  In the meantime we were always assured there was a will.  My mom unfortunately passed after nine years.  I felt she was finally free as she never cared for my sister who took care of her.  My sister never wanted to work.  And she collected my moms hard earned social security and was state paid to take care of her.  I came up often never forgetting a birthday or mothers day.  If my mom went into the hospital for anything we were never informed until we found out on our own.  I offered numerous times to spend my vacation time caring for my mother so my sister and husband could take some time off.  I was refused but my two sisters came in and cared for her.  My sister and brother and I were sat down for a fake Will reading following my mother's passing.  My mom's pocessions were put in a yard sale and not asked would we like something.  My main concern was my pictures I had given my mom over the years(which I never recieved).  It all came to a head when I made a trip north and contacted a lawyer I once had and he told me to make a trip to the court house to see if a Will was ever on record.  The answer was no.  He did me a favor and called and asked directly to my sister if there was a Will and she said she was the power of attorney and she would do what she wanted to do.  How my other two half  sisters came into play is my sister paid them off.  I wished I would of went further with the information my mom had given me.  I feel my letting them know how I feel now makes up for not doing the right thing by my mother.  She died without anyone ever really taking her concerns seriously.  As for my sister and brother we are all closer now and know we weren't a part of this.    And my half sisters they will  have to answer later for their greediness.  My nieces and nephews are now starting to come around and ask questions.  Naturally my sisters told them we were the bad guys.  I explained what had really happened only if they wanted to know.  I believe in a person having bad carma and I do believe in what comes around goes around.  I will stay close to my nieces and nephews and hope I outlive my sisters so I can get back my pictures if they are still available.  And hope one day when the money is gone that they feel a sense of loss for loss of family.