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Dr. Phil has reinforcement today – Robin joins him to answer all your burning questions! They also have special help from several speakers from Women of Faith, a faith-based organization encouraging women of all ages to grow in faith and spiritual maturity. First up are best friends, Barbara and Laurie, who both suffer from agoraphobia. Laurie hates to be in crowded places, and Barbara can’t comfortably leave a five-mile radius of her home. It’s a vicious cycle they’ve been sharing for 16 years. Patsy, a Women of Faith speaker who lost six years of her life to agoraphobia, shares how the women can get over their disorder. Then, Marilyn has been afraid of catching germs since she was in the 6th grade, and even gives her friends latex gloves to wear! What’s behind her fears? And, Jodi wrote to Dr. Phil because she doesn’t trust her husband, Scott’s, ability to fly his homemade helicopter. Scott says his wife needs to be more trusting. What does Dr. Phil think? Plus, a mom who says she never puts herself first wants Robin’s help. Talk about the show here.

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October 3, 2006, 3:08 pm CDT


Quote From: purplepenny

Are you sure you aren't just being ultra sensitive?

He might also be trying to keep people who aren't religious interested too.
I also was very disappointed that more focus wasn't given to the Women of Faith. These are extraordinary women and their message of faith, hope and love is extremely important to EVERYONE!! Religion has very little to do with these is their RELATIONSHIP with their Lord Jesus Christ that makes them who they are!
October 3, 2006, 3:11 pm CDT

10/03 Ask Dr. Phil and Robin

Quote From: crashandburn

Dr. Phil,

I was watching your show today and you said that any phobia could be overcome. I am deathly afraid of bees/wasps/anything else that stings. I have never been stung (as far as I remember) but it is very difficult for me to function when there is one flying around. I remember one instance when I was outside and ran from a bee, and it chased me. It has gotten to the point where I am afraid to wear yellow (that's what I was wearing when I was chased) and I won't go outside when I see one flying around. I am 22 and will graduate from college soon, as a Social Studies teacher, and I don't know that I could remain calm if one were to fly into my classroom when I am teaching one day. Aside from actually being stung, is there a way to overcome this fear?

 I heard somewhere before that phobias that you have reveal how you passed in a past life. I'm extremely cluster-phobic if anything is put over my face, my wedding gown will prob be short a veil. Hypnosis may help, if your interested.
October 3, 2006, 3:17 pm CDT

How ironic

I just watched the show with Women of Faith.  I attended their conference a couple of years ago and had a wonderful time.  What an absolute blessing!!!!  I went with my DOL and soon-to-be DOL. They were aware of my fear of crowds and how to help me.  Last year, I had the opportunity to attend again, but my daughter and DOL's couldn't go.  Because I can't handle being in crowds by myself, I didn't go.  I am hoping to have the opportunity to go again. I don't want to miss the fun things in life waiting for everyone else to go home. =)


Another "Woman of Faith" 

October 3, 2006, 4:12 pm CDT

10/03 Ask Dr. Phil and Robin

Quote From: leefamilee

I am a mother of a 2 and 3 yr old.  I also take care of my parents who moved in with us due to health problems last year. I had to return to work a couple of months ago part time to help out financially.  Between my parents and us we have 5 dogs and 1 cat that I take care of.  I also walk my sister's dog daily and help out with her household chores.  I start my day between 4:30 and 5 am and I usually don't get to bed until 11 or 12 at night.  I stay exhausted!  I am overweight and need to work out but I can't seem to find 15 min. for a hot bath little lone time to go work out.  I know that I need a break and time for me, but there is always someone needing something.  My husband does what he can, but he works two jobs and isn't home much.  I feel like a robot that just keeps on going, but I am afraid that I am headed for a breakdown.  I heard Robin's reply to the mom on today's show and it all made since, but it just isn't that simple.

 I have read your story and I do not see how you are still standing!! You have got so much on your plate you willhave a break down in time!! My name is Jenni and I am the friend of Misty. As women, I know we feel like we have to do everything!! We have to be the moms,wives,daughters,maids,cooks,teachers and everthing to follow. In todays world we as women are to do everything. And I know it is hard. I am a working mom myself,but I travel with my job so I have time for myself. The only advice I can give you is Keep your head up and talk with you husband. Iknow he also is working his bum off also,but you are goingto breakdown and become sick. Then what will your family do? You are the most important person in that family and if thay lost you it would be a loss so great!! Just be honest with your husband,parents and your kids! MOM NEEDS A BREAK!!! Just 10-15 a day to find yourself. Also go get a check up!! Let the doctor to a full blood test. Misty and I went to the doctor  and I just found out I had a thyroid problem. And I have a new baby and they think that was the cause. So you may have a medical problem as well. So please try to put yourself first even if its for five min. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Keep you head up and be proud of YOU!!!!!
October 3, 2006, 4:12 pm CDT

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Quote From: lk83151

I also was very disappointed that more focus wasn't given to the Women of Faith. These are extraordinary women and their message of faith, hope and love is extremely important to EVERYONE!! Religion has very little to do with these is their RELATIONSHIP with their Lord Jesus Christ that makes them who they are!
Religion doesn't always impact a person's everyday life. Like I said, they might have been trying to keep it open and non-preachy.
October 3, 2006, 4:16 pm CDT

Me too! Me too!

Quote From: jettav

Man o man, I don't beleive I missed Sandi Patty, she has got a  voice in a half! And yes, Patsy Clairmont, I would encourage any one to go see her, she is a riot! I have seen her several times and have mine and her picture together in my album. I have never been to this  conference but I will make it to one. :) I have been to many of these type of things and these women are so unique, they are just like all of us, been through struggles and have found the source to get them through it. Good to know that there are people of the faith in the media, way to go Robin, no wonder you shine and every one loves you.
I also had the honor and priviledge of attending Women of Faith in Sacramento this past weekend.  I've been to 6 WOF Conferences, and it was so wonderful to hear Robin McGraw.  Then at the end of her message to have DR. PHIL come on stage to escort her off - it was too cool!  Both Robin and Dr. Phil talked about their faith in Jesus Christ, and I must admit I was looking for more on the show today, but realize that was not the focus.  Dr. Phil did talk about Women of Faith, and if you look at the right sidebar, it's all about WOF!  I also attended the pre-conference and heard Sandi Patty - she is real, transparent and vulnerable.  If anyone is interested, check out the womenoffaith website and go to one of the conferences in your area.  Or, if you can, go to the national conference next March in San Antonio.  That's my birthday weekend and I'm really hoping to be able to go!  Take care and God Bless
October 3, 2006, 4:19 pm CDT

10/03 Ask Dr. Phil and Robin

Quote From: shmigelz

To the wife of the helicopter builder.


Let him do his thing. He works and built it. Im sure he did all the proper research. His wife said she would have it towed away when hes at work...


How about she get a JOB and not worry about him....

People CAN just do their thing, but once you get married you are now SHARING your life. If my husband decided to do something I find dangerous I would have a lot to say about it because he's MY husband and we SHARE our lives together. If he gets hurt doing something silly that effects me directly.

Not sure what a job has to do with this, sounds like a snide little comment to me...what's your point? Seems you don't understand marriage.
October 3, 2006, 4:51 pm CDT

Doctor Phil Show.

And Ask Doctor Robin. I hate to amited but Iseen this before many time. See you tomorrow Afternoon. Sincerley Your. Russell

October 3, 2006, 5:00 pm CDT

weight and taking care of your self

Dr Phil and Robin,


I just got done watching your show today and i feel that alot of why certain women dont take care of themselves and let things go, is because of the weight issues........i have gained about 30lbs in one year (dont know why yet) but i hate going shopping now.....i cant stand the way i look in jeans.........i hate looking in the mirrors at my body and face as everything has just gone to crap.......but this could be why she just takes care of the house hold and doesn't care.........??? maybe yes,..........i am going to go get my thyroid check this week also because, i haven't change anything on my end.....i just keep getting bigger and less and less items of clothing i wear sweats alot and my pjs alot........anyways just my opinion

October 3, 2006, 5:05 pm CDT

10/03 Ask Dr. Phil and Robin

Quote From: ydelaluz

Hi Dr. Phil I am a mother of 3 children 14, 12 and a 4 year old, i have been seperated from my husband for 3.5 years. my relationship was physically and verbally  abusive and controlling. that i would never amount to anything, no one will want me with 3 kids, that i was fat and ugly, that the man i do meet will only want me for one thing and that is SEX. He was a drinker during the weekends every weekend him and i were always argueing and hardley around each other. I always for 14 yrs did the laundry, grocerie shopping, errands, house cleaning alone it was allright for me to do that on my own other than that i was not allowed to have a social life with my friends, but he would be out all of the time go to school, hang with friends, join sports, go see his family, be out drinking in other words have a life. i was completely tired of it so i just lived day by day with my kids going out with them to the zoo, movies , go to birthday parties with them while he would be out somewhere else or home sleeping recuperating from a hangover. Well 6 years ago he joined the military which i didnt approve of because he did not sit to talk to me about it, and the way i found out was he was packing and i heard a seargant knock at our door picking him up to go to Fort Lenardwood, I was so furious that he did not take into consideration our kids feelings and mine. Well while he was in boot camp my children and i went to visit him i did it for the sake of my children not for mine of course. Well during that time i was enjoying my freedom enjoying things that i was unable to do when he was around spend time with my friends , go out every now and then it was  nice well i started noticeing that i was so peacfull and calm I lost weight, and was much happier with myself felt more confident i was able to dye my hair, where what i wanted, shop and buy us things we liked etc... etc... Well he had gone over seas 2002 he was there for 1 yr and 1/2. When he was scheduled to return my kids and i went to the welcome home thing and i spoke to him a week prior to that , that i didnt want him to come home, he said fine he was staying at his sisters home, I know this is mean and cruel but that is just the way i felt he put me through so much pain cheating , physically abusive and verbally. Well we have been seperated ever since he wont do nothing for his kids ,pays no child support, wont see them, unless i nagg about it. I had to take up two jobs to provide for my kids. Well two years ago i met someone amazing, sweet, caring and supports me in everything i do he has done more for my kids than their own father. My kids dont know much about him becasue i dont bring him around. this past week my back went out i couldnt walk, i called their father if he can take me to the hospital his remark was i have to work and have other things to do. So i called him if he can do me that favor, he took me to the hospital , stood there with me the whole time, and stayed with me Thurs - Sunday at my place and helped me get around, he cooked , cleaned, did the groceries for me and my laundry  and was attentive to my and my kids every need, he was the best with my kids my younger ones liked him but my 14 yrs old was with attitude and everything. He is interested in pursuing something further with me but i'm scared becasue my soon to be ex gives me a hard time that he will take my kids away from me, he recently called the cops on me because i took up a second job and went to work and my two older daughters stayed home alone but grandma lives upstairs and other family my younger son was with his uncle and was spending the night at his home. since my soon to be ex found out about this other person he has been more of a jerk, he dont want this person to come near my kids well he never did until this past week. I dont know what to do i do like this other person but i dont want my kids to be taken from me since i am technically still married to this other jerk and i cant afford a divorce right now. i had to take up anthher job just to pay my bills. this other person offers to help but i just cant take it, i feel i am taking charity although i know he does it from the kindness of his heart, and just wants to make things easier for me. but its hard for me to accept help i have to much pride. i want to do this alone but i am afraid he might get tired of waiting and walk away but yet i am scared of moving foward becasue i dont want to get hurt again. what should i do? if i dont get this divorce (lack of money) is there a chance of him taking my kids from me if i get involved with this other person? I have been seperated for 3 years now and he does nothing for them kids. I dont plan to move in with him or start a life with him, just date and get to know each other and take it from there. i have to make sure all my 3 kids are comfortable with it first, but then again what if they never do then what? they are okay cuz they just met him and they dont know his feelings towards me and mine toward him. please help me i am so confused and stressed out. Oh and let me add I am no longer in love with my kids father. i realized that 4 years ago.

If you believe in God... He can still save your marriage. You do sound like you you have had it rough, but God can use you and your husband in a mighty way. That other guy sounds really nice, but the realationship you have with him is not Godly. If you leave your husband for him, how can God bless that? As for doing it on your own... do what you have to. I know that MY GOD, can provide your EVERY need. But you have to step out on faith and trust him. My God is a God of the impossible. And if you  choose to follow Christ, He will give you the peace that passes ALL understanding.

        You say that your husband is threatening to take your kids away... I promise if you learn to depend on God and not on a man, He will protect you and show favor on you, and He will take care of your situation.

         I want to say I'm not trying to judge you and your situation, I'm just trying to tell you what the REAL answer is. Its not another man- its God. Focus on being the good mother you are, and let time tell for your marriage. I know God can change your husband to be the man of your dreams. Will you let him?

        You know God loves you so much!!! He hurts when you hurt. He wants so much more for you than what you are going through right now. But He allows us to go through these bad things to make us trust Him. I say you can't get your blessing until you go through Hell first to get it.

       God bless you.- pray for wisdom

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