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Topic : 02/14 Love Smart Island, Part 2

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Created on : Friday, February 10, 2006, 12:47:04 pm
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It's brutal. It's cutthroat. It's competitive. It leaves you wounded, scarred and absolutely exhausted. We're talking about LOVE! A group of frustrated singles set sail for a getaway on Catalina Island so they can learn how to start "loving smart." Three women, who admit they're very picky, agree to an experiment to see what would happen if they're unable to judge a book by its cover. With blindfolds on, they go out on dates with men who think their appearances might not measure up with what women are looking for. Will these nice guys finish last when the blindfolds are removed? Then, Dillon and Donna have been dating for two years, yet she can't get over her insane jealousy. Will she be able to get her green-eyed monster under control before it runs him off? Plus, the latest on the love triangle among Todd, Hayley and Chad, and your chance to meet these eligible singles! Share your thoughts.


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February 14, 2006, 3:03 pm CST

Thank you

Quote From: lololove

First off...Marty was a great guy and I would have loved to have been led around by him blindfolded all day.  Once the blindfold was off I would have been thrilled...but that's me...don't crucify January because she had a different reaction.   


REMEMBER folks, it's TV and highly edited.  I'm sure January had a lot of pleasant things to say about Marty too, they probably just ended up on the editing room floor (so to speak).  For these women to go on national TV and be honest about their faults in search of help was brave - they knew what they were getting into and how they would be portrayed yet they were honest and laid it out there.   


It's difficult to believe that they are so unusual - these women just had the courage to go on TV and be honest about it.  We all have qualities we're looking for, don't we?  It's natural to be physically attracted to some and not others.  I think most of us just don't come out and say we're not attracted to someone...instead we use the key phrases, I just want to be friends, we have different interests, I'm not looking for a relationship right now, and the dreaded it's not you it's me, etc.   


Cut these ladies some slack...most of us have qualities we're looking for and attracted to...I think it's pretty great they had the nerve to admit to it on national TV. 


Best of luck to you ladies!!! 





Thank you!  Couldnt have said it better myself.  And I did say good things about Marty, he knows that and he even gave me a hug after the taping when we left for the airport.  We were all friends and some of us still are.
February 14, 2006, 3:06 pm CST

34/Single/Never Married and Loving it Dr. Phil


I would just like to speak up for the women and men out there who actually enjoying being single.  Single life is not so hard...get a tennis, go skiing, go bowling,,,sign up for dance class! 


 Yes, I would like to be married one day,,,YES,,,i would like to have children.  However, the older I get the more I realize how difficult finding a man with integrity is.  If a man is looking for his future bride on the computer,,,chances are good that he is being lured to look at naked pics of women.  I am not a jealous girl,,,but i don't like the idea of meeting a man on the computer who has an ENDLESS database of women willing to bare everything,,,and I mean everything...when we have our first fight,,,he could just return to his online dating database and find a girl who "says" exactly what he wants to hear.  Women aren't CANDY...and it seems like men today (and some of the women on your show),,,feel like they can just find the best piece of candy they can find. 


.I have officially removed myself from any online dating websites b/c I want to meet a man who doesn't go into cyberspace to meet girls.  In my HUMBLE opinion,,,that will only lead to problems later in the relationship. 


To the virgin girl on Dr. Phils show!  I applaud you for holding onto your virginity.  I was disappointed when Dr. Phil said "How's that working for you?" I hope young girls are not misled by Dr. Phils statements that being more "sexual" will snag you a man.  That is a lie,,,that won't work either.  Just keep being your best self.  You don't need a man so bad  that you give up your integrity.  No man is worth that.  I learned the hard way. 















We all need to bring back integrity to our own lives before we worry about being with anybody!!!  


February 14, 2006, 3:11 pm CST

02/14 Love Smart Island, Part 2

Quote From: irieman

I thought this was a great show.  I've learned quite a bit about how other people react to similar situations I've been in.  This show also made me happy, about myself, and what I value.  I thought everyone on the show were troopers in the fact that they did this in front of a large's nerve racking enough to do it without a million eyes on you. 

My only beef is with January.   Unfortunately there are many women like her out there......think they'll find happiness in materialistic, outward appearance related things.  I feel bad for them, as they will never be truly happy.  She's a very attractive girl....on the outside.....but a pretty big turn-off when she expresses what's important.  Don't get me wrong.....everyone is entitled to their beliefs, and what they aspire to achieve in life.  Any man with a good head on his shoulders, would sooner be interested in someone with more amiable beliefs, than a pretty face........a pretty face only goes so far.....which isn't really far in the big scheme of things. 

I thought Colleen was very attractive....once she realizes how she affects the feelings of other people by her actions.  I did, however, see a good soul behind her beautiful eyes.  I truly think that she'll take what happen to heart in the future, and take her actions into account as they affect another person. 

You only saw 5 minutes of my life.  What the show wanted you to see.  I am a good person and I deserve the best.  Everyone that really knows me knows I am awesome on the inside.  What they didnt show is the fact that I stated that my main priority is career and motivation.  My attraction to someone may not be Mr. GQ or someone else's idea of hot.  Its my opinion and I have every right to choose who i'd like to date.  Why is everyone picking on me????  Dont judge someone based on 5 minutes or else you are just as shallow as you claim me to be.
February 14, 2006, 3:18 pm CST


Quote From: ajbelle

I can understand how you may perceive us to be "self centered snots" and "shallow." We all went on the show because we know that this is not the way to go about dating and were hoping to learn something from that. I don't like the way this made us look because we are all successful, fun, intelligent and beautiful women (I don't mean just on the outside but inside as well.) Unfortunately, the only thing you got to see was our flaws, but I guarantee you if you asked anyone that met us on the show or in life, they would tell you that we have a lot going for us. Everyone of the girls on this show has had their heartbroken and has learned how to take care of themselves. I know that looks aren't everything and am learning from this experience by broadening my outlook on dating. We all know how difficult dating can be and it doesn't matter if you are in your 20's or 60's (it's just different in every age.) I am looking for a good guy that is honest, educated, kind-hearted and as secure with himself as I am with myself (still must love my dog and I don't care if he has a cat- hahaha!) I do have certain standards but shouldn't everyone. And for the comment that my mom should be embarrassed that I am her daughter. My mom couldn't be prouder because I admitted that I am not perfect and I have issues with dating ON NATIONAL TELEVISION!  


I will say that this was one of the best experiences of my life and I thank Dr. Phil and his staff for allowing me to participate. I met the best group of guys and girls and I know we will all be friends for life! I miss everyone so much! 


January and Kim- thank you for taking the beating with me. I know what wonderful people you are and anyone that truly knows us will agree with me. 


Remember that we filmed for 3 days straight and all anyone saw was about 15 minutes. So be careful judging other people on what you see on TV.  


Thanks for watching! 


P.S. My boyfriend's moms always love me! 

That's right Ash.   Meeting you girls and making such great friendships was the best thing from this experience.  These people have no clue what really went on.  We only have to worry about the people in our lives that matter, friends and family.
February 14, 2006, 3:24 pm CST

he still shouldn't have said what he did

Quote From: anna99

I'm sorry to be so blunt, but I think Donna has some serious self-esteem issues. Dillon should get a major award for putting up with her insanity for so long. I can't understand why he's still with her. I couldn't even stand to watch the short segment on her where she freaked out continually the time! 


Run Dillon, run....indeed! 

Dillan may be putting up with her jealous ways, but he had no business in telling other girls that his girlfriend is "jealous".  It doesn't give her a chance to meet the girls and build legitimate friendships of her own.  He is setting her up for failure by "pre-telling" people what she will do.  People can't meet her with an open mind when they have already been told how she will act. 


On the other hand,,,personally, I think she should give up modeling if she has such a problem with him looking at other girls.  Does she not mind when men look at her semi-pornographic photos even though most of the men probably have girlfriends or wives?  Does she mind being the source of jealousy for other women?  Seems like a double standard to me.  Put your freaking clothes on and do some respectable modeling if you have to go for that shallow career.  You seem smart,,,use your brain instead of your bod!!!  Your not helping yourself or any other women for that matter. 



February 14, 2006, 3:26 pm CST

is it just me?

Why, on many memorable occasions on TV, cute girls are set up with self conscious guys and they are supposed to think they are prince charming?   the bachelors were all over 30 , with most girls  younger.  


I wanna see some cute confident guy with and a blindford tell an overweight girl she is it because of her winning personality afther the blindfold is removed. 


Ok a bit jaded but dont like the message this stuff sends about women.  I see more young cute girls with father figures or bill gates than I see brad pitt with kathy bates. 


Side track but worth mentioning,  I play a sport where a lot of men who were self proclaimed nerds in highschool get into it and become athletes.   Some of these guys I never would have thought were my type, being a more hourglass girl, dont like guys I can throw over my shoulder like a sack of potatoes..  Their confidence and athletic ability made them attractive to me...not all superficial, realize there is much more.  Just needed to stand up on this one, first time I was very dissapointed in Dr. Phils judgement and sense of fairness. 

February 14, 2006, 3:26 pm CST


I HAVE TO REPOST THIS FOR ALL THE SINGLE LADIES TONIGHT NOT KNOWING WHERE TO GO TO MEET A MAN.  I posted this back the last LoveSmart..... BUT CHIPOTLE'S is the PLACE.  IT is a BIG TIME GUY HANG OUT.  If you don't go here,  YOU ARE MISSING SOMETHING.  So if you have no where to go tonight for Valentine's Day.... CHECK IT OUT!  Chipotle's is that fast food Mexican restaurant..... you've got to have one in your city.  Last time I was there was last Weds evening about 5 pm.  I counted 25 guys.... only 3 ladies includes me.  I only counted 1 wedding ring... and  at least 10 of the guys were really nice looking... eye candy... TRUST ME....  and all looked like they had a job.......  just a little handy Valentine's Day tip.......
February 14, 2006, 3:44 pm CST

totally understand remote areas

Quote From: sriggs

 I have a single son that is 35 years old that lives in a very small town in East Texas.  It is very hard for him to meet nice women.  He has tried the typical situtations like:  church, parks, grocery stores, gyms, many hook up dates from friends and family.   He has tried the internet dating web sites, long distance relations, but so far no luck.  He would very much like to be married and have children, but is having such a difficult time finding the right person, well---any person at all.  What is a guy suppose to do in a small town?  He has a great job (Head Baseball Coach at a University), financial stable, tall, handsome, athletic, good values and morals--what's a guy suppose to do?

Hi I totally understand the issue with remote areas as I live in one and there are plenty of guys around but none that share the same values, likes and outlook on life as I do.  I don't like the bars as in my remote area most the single guys in there drink every night of the week and some of their values aren't the best.   I aren't one of those too picky types just want an outdoors, outgoing guy that doesn't smoke or carry bad habits.  In the more remote areas we just don't have the 'depth' of numbers to work with. 


Until I know for certain about someone I aren't about to move either (I have already moved my life half way around the world from New Zealand) and  I love the area I live in and have since I moved here almost 5 years ago built a financially secure business of my own and bought my own beautiful piece of property. 


I may not know your son but I do understand his quandry. 

February 14, 2006, 3:47 pm CST

02/14 Love Smart Island, Part 2

I watched the show yesterday, so I sure didn't want to miss today's show. I hate to judge the women based on what was seen on tv. We all know that they show the most controversial stuff, heck that's where the rating game comes into play. So, I think the women appeared to be especially shallow because that what was projected for us to see. 


I think Marty is a cutie pie and I'm 60 years old. I love bald men, they have it going on. I think Dr. Phil is a babe.:) 


Dating is brutal, pure and simple. You either reject someone or someone rejects you, or, so it seems. It's a miracle when two hearts find each other and feel the same way at the same time. I think it happens quicker and easier when we are young but that's because the pond is big and the fish are plentiful. Here I am now, the pond is almost dry and the fish want fingerlings. I don't have a clue how to solve the problem. I can snivel, gritch, whine all day but it doesn't fix a thing. So I slap a smile on my face and keep going. Someday maybe I will stumble over someone who wants to get to know me, maybe not. Life's a gamble any way you look at it. 

February 14, 2006, 4:03 pm CST

where is average jane?

ok, we saw all the 'babes' and we saw the 'average joe's' but where were the 'average janes'?  do we not count?  maybe, just maybe some hunky guy, or even average joe could look in our direction once in awhile.  my looks may not rate me as a "10"  but for sure my personality does!
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